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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Bereavement

My brother was murdered last night.

342 replies

MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:17

That's it, really. He was stabbed to death on his doorstep. Just been staring at the photo of his house with the forensic tent outside on the BBC website.

I've been spamming FB with maudlin photos but reckon my friends there have probably had enough by now, so have come here to rant instead.

DD (14) adored him. She is being very brave. DS doesn't know yet as it's his 5th birthday today and I wanted him to have one more day of fun before he learns that life is shit.

So how do we get through this?

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 22:38

Forever young - oh yes, last year (at 42!) he STILL counted the Christmas presents to make sure I didn't have more than him.

I'm going to try to sleep now as small one will be up early, but thank you all for your lovely words.

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extracrunchy · 04/12/2013 22:38

OP I am so sorry for you and your family.

Iworrymyselftosleep · 04/12/2013 22:40

Im so sorry for your loss. I don't have the right words to say what I want to say which is how lucky your children are to have such a caring mum.

My thoughts are with you x

eightandthreequarters · 04/12/2013 22:43

I'm so sorry, Metallic. He looks simply wonderful, and how devastating to lose him. I wish you all strength.

MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 22:45

Thanks moomoomummy , your fab nephew has sent DD a lovely FB message x

Any strength I've managed to find today has come from other people, and everyone here has added to it.

And yes, he was wonderful and awesome, a great father figure to my kids. My mum has been telling me how many of his friends have driven for hours today just to get together in his honour. I am so proud that he was my brother.

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ThisIsMeNow · 04/12/2013 22:46

Metallic, I'm saying a prayer tonight for you and your family. I hope you have the strength tomorrow to get through telling your son. Will be thinking of you and sending love.

Mrsrochesterscat · 04/12/2013 22:46

I am so sorry for your loss.
If it helps, my uncle was murdered when I was in junior school - I don't think any of us children (brothers, sisters, cousins) have a distorted view of the world.

JanePurdy · 04/12/2013 22:47

Oh metallic, how utterly awful. RIP Jon xxx

Andro · 04/12/2013 22:49

How do you get through it? You get through it one day at a time, one hour at a time...one minute at a time if that's what it takes. There is (if you have a good family) strength in unity, support each other. Right now there is nothing you can feel that is wrong or inappropriate, right now it just is.

I'm sorry for your loss and I hope that the perpetrator(s) is(are) caught.

Slippersandacuppa · 04/12/2013 22:52

Thinking of you and your family, OP. I really don't know what to say, other than I'm so sorry and sad to hear what happened. You sound quite amazing.

IHaveSeenMyHat · 04/12/2013 22:52

Oh my goodness. What a horrific loss. I'm so sorry.

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mrscumberbatch · 04/12/2013 22:55

OP so sorry to hear. I don't know you or your brother but we were supposed to be coming from glasgow to see him this weekend with his band.

The whole hairy community is gutted. We are all thinking of you and your family and friends.

GimmeDaBoobehz · 04/12/2013 22:55

I am so sorry for your loss :(

My sister lost her best friend 8 years ago. He was attacked for being gay. Kicked and punched to death. His poor, poor family. It was in London, so horrible.

I just can't understand why anyone would want to do Thanatos to another human being. I really don't understand.

He sounds like an amazing man.

MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 22:56

Thanks, Mrsrochesterscat, that is helpful to know. I'm certainly going to do my damndest to make sure that they get through this.

And now I really do need to sleep!

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JugglingFromHereToThere · 04/12/2013 22:57

I'm so sorry

One thought from something you said earlier - I've noticed many people talk about those they've lost in the present tense if and when that feels more natural. So don't feel there are any rules x

whymummywhy · 04/12/2013 23:00

So sorry for your loss...x

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 04/12/2013 23:01

I am so sorry to hear this about your brother :(

Southsearocks · 04/12/2013 23:10

Thinking of you too. Hope you get some rest xx

dramajustfollowsme · 04/12/2013 23:11

Sorry for your loss. He sounds like a lovely man. Well done for holding it together for your son but you now must let yourself grieve too.

Nancery · 04/12/2013 23:25

Metallic, I am in awe of your strength with regards to your sons birthday party. I am also so sorry to hear about your brother. He really does sound a lovely man. My thoughts are with you and your family xxx

mummylin2495 · 04/12/2013 23:25

What an horrific thing to of happened to your dear brother, I can begin to imagine the horror or pain. Sending you and your parents my deepest sympathy and strength to help you through these very dark days. RIP Jon

gnatgnu · 05/12/2013 00:02

RIP Jon

So so sorry for your familiy's loss OP

SilverShins · 05/12/2013 00:26

Oh gosh, I'm so sad for you Metallic. I wish you and your family strength and hope. Thinking about you

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