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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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My brother was murdered last night.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:17

That's it, really. He was stabbed to death on his doorstep. Just been staring at the photo of his house with the forensic tent outside on the BBC website.

I've been spamming FB with maudlin photos but reckon my friends there have probably had enough by now, so have come here to rant instead.

DD (14) adored him. She is being very brave. DS doesn't know yet as it's his 5th birthday today and I wanted him to have one more day of fun before he learns that life is shit.

So how do we get through this?

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ParcelFancy · 24/12/2013 23:18

Metallic, I'm thinking of you and all your family tonight.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 24/12/2013 23:34

Hi, I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you tonight and to let you know that you and your family haven't been forgotten and neither has Jon. I hope you were able to have his funeral before Christmas as you wanted and that it went as well as it could have. Sending you love & strength to keep going xxx

ZingChoirsOfAngels · 25/12/2013 00:03

Thinking of you all, I hope Christmas will bring some joy despite your heart break.

x (hugs)

PacificDingbat · 25/12/2013 00:14

Sending you peace and love today, Metallic, and strength for the journey ahead.

WoTmania · 25/12/2013 18:39

Been thinking if you and your family today Metallic.

MetallicHighlights · 29/12/2013 22:53

Thank you. Am not able to post much as we are at my parents' house and the internet connection is woeful.

Jon's funeral is tomorrow. In the end we decided we couldn't do him justice before Christmas, plus it wasn't fair on people who wanted to come from some distance away to drag them over here in the run up to Christmas Day. I went to see him a few days ago which was pretty awful but something I needed to do.

We're having a short ceremony at the Crem at 11, followed by a celebration of his life at our local church. The church hall is now plastered with photos, and some of the groups he was involved with have put up display boards. He will get the best send off we can give him. Please think of us tomorrow.

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PacificDingbat · 29/12/2013 22:55

I will be thinking of you all, Metallic.

I am sure Jon would be proud of the send of you are giving him.
I hope the day goes as well as these things can be going.

magimedi · 29/12/2013 23:19

I will also think of you tomorrow at 11am - as I am sure many others from here will.

May tomorrow bring you some comfort.

MetallicHighlights · 30/12/2013 08:55

Can't believe we have to say goodbye today.

DD is singing Dad's Song by Set It Off. I hope she manages to get through it.

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ParsingFancy · 30/12/2013 10:24

Thinking of you all. Sending special singing vibes to DD - but whether she makes it through or not, she'll be expressing how you all feel.

trulymadlydeeply · 30/12/2013 13:16

Thinking of you today: hope it's everything you wanted for him. Xx

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 30/12/2013 13:29

I have just seen your post(s). I hope it went as well as it possibly could have - it sounds very well thought out & lovely. You shouldn't have been saying goodbye to him at all - life is unfair xxx

ShellyF · 30/12/2013 13:32

Thinking of you and your family

tribpot · 30/12/2013 13:34

Thinking of you all.

PacificDingbat · 30/12/2013 14:24

I've been thinking of you all on and off all morning.
I am sure your DD did her Uncle Jon proud.

WhatAPallava · 30/12/2013 20:47

Thinking of you OP......xx

Xoticdreamz · 30/12/2013 21:10

Thinking of you . Wishing you some relief from the pain .

meisiemee · 30/12/2013 21:15

So sorry for you and your family's loss x

Why don't we hear of this on the news, infuriates me, then people this it's such a safe happy country but reality is hidden.

MetallicHighlights · 30/12/2013 22:09

We got through it. The tributes were lovely and DD was fantastic. Small Boy wore one of Jon's flat caps and enjoyed all the fuss. Jon's best friends carried him in, all wearing flat caps as well. Loads of people came, family we haven't seen for years - Jon would have loved it.

Still can't get my head round the fact that my little brother was in that box. I miss him so much.

Thanks to everyone who was thinking of us.

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tribpot · 30/12/2013 23:52

I'm glad you got through it, MetallicHighlights.

ParsingFancy · 30/12/2013 23:55

Well done to DD.

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ZingChoirsOfAngels · 31/12/2013 15:24

thinking of you

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 31/12/2013 15:59

I'm pleased for DD that she did well, I haven't been brave enough to listen to the track.

It is so very very hard to come to terms with it when someone dies suddenly, let alone in these circumstances. Be kind to yourself x

MetallicHighlights · 01/01/2014 00:26

The lyrics are all about saying goodbye to someone who has been an inspiration and father figure, Chipping . How she sang it all I don't know.

And now it's last year that he died. This year, when I'm doing the Christmas photo books and calendars, he won't be in them. Two months since I saw him alive. I feel like I'm racing away from him.

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