To have sex infront of 18 month old

[TwoDotZero]

We were having a cuddle that turned into a bit of a quickie. Ds was playing in his room and occasionally sticking his head around the door but generally not paying much attention to us.

Afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on our bed, reading a book and showing me a picture.

He didn't seem at all bothered.
Thoughts?

yes prob.
anyway
i think the OP has got le messaaaaaarge

MoreCrack urgh that's horrible

It's inappropriate, and I wouldn't be anywhere near comfortable with the situation, but OP ihas clearly NOT committed an offence:

From the NSPCC -

Definition:
The official definition is "sexual abuse involves forcing or enticing a child or young person to take part in sexual activities including prostitution, whether or not the child is aware of what is happening. The activities may involve physical contact, including penetrative (e.g. rape, buggery or oral sex) or non-penetrative acts. They may include non-contact activities, such as involving children in looking at, or in the production of, pornographic material or watching sexual activities, or encouraging children to behave in sexually inappropriate ways" (DfES, 2006)

Key words are "forced or enticed". The child was neither forced nor enticed, even if the parents were careless and heedless.

yes i think the intention wasnt forced
but hey ho
still

get a grip op

MoreCrack at you friends. That is very wrong

did no one else see MoreCrack's post about the toddler who keeps up a running commentry?

I don't have sex. I only did it twice.

RockBird I wouldn't, but only coz we live in a flat. I'd leave my 18 month old playing in his room while I did something in another room, of course, but not have a quick shag, no.

Actually I'm surprised at the Mumsnet reaction to this, I thought prudishness was the domain of netmums...

hmm
i think we are htinking about the welfare of the kid.

I really don't like this thread.If he'd accidentally caught you at it, that would be one thing, but to continue to have sex with your child in and out of the room and then to post on here about it.Odd, very odd
Sounds too close to paedophilia to me.I am going to ask for this thread to be pulled

What Blu says. And Flook. And others.

MoreCrack that is horrible!

I was assuming the OP meant under the duvet frollicks too, rather than anything more graphic.

how is it peadophilia?

It is not being a prude to not want to carry on shagging when your 18mth old son is wandering in and out of your room, surely?

I dont think prudish is applicable...is it?

Yes really overmydeadbody!

My DD is 6 and I just couldn't bring myself to do it in case she woke up. I'd have to come clean and I'm not sure she's ready for the birds 'n bees talk yet. She found my 'little friend' a while back and that was bad enough. I had to tell her it was my back massager.

Shame, I was going to ask for some tips OMDB . I often leave DD in another room for five mins but we have stairs so not as easy, the little so and so would be up them like lightening!

oh ffs, brassband, paedophilia?

Do you know what that means?

Yeah, I'm not liking this thread too much either.

OP - are you getting the message that YABU ?

See, I didn't imagine a duvet when I read the op. It was doggy style over the end of the bed with one foot against the wardrobe for leverage.

Just thought I'd share.

any time anyone disagrees wiht anything sexual its claled prudery imo

I think getting turned on by children watching would faa under that catagory.