To have sex infront of 18 month old

[TwoDotZero]

We were having a cuddle that turned into a bit of a quickie. Ds was playing in his room and occasionally sticking his head around the door but generally not paying much attention to us.

Afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on our bed, reading a book and showing me a picture.

He didn't seem at all bothered.
Thoughts?

They carried on while he kept sticking his head round the door, how could you just carry on knowing your toddler was watching?

OP
did oyu strike a pose?

Weren't you worried about what he was getting up to whilst you were erm otherwise engaged?

My 20 month old won't allow me to sit down in peace right enough, she is always climbing on top of me or throwing books at me.

I'm the same as most posters on here, even the cats get turfed out, 18 month olds, well it's just plain icky.

YABVU. Just plain wrong.

i'm not sure i believe it either - doesn't make sense.

am i allowed to say that??

As if this is for real.

I don't believe it, maybe a windup

I wonder what your toddler thought. "Oh gawd she's at it again like a bitch on heat"

YummySlummy it is fine if the baby/toddler is actually asleep.

Ruby I agree with you actually, I was under the impression it was only an offence if it was somethgin that the child had actively been encouraged to watch, rather than accidentally see,

OP you need to be more careful next time. At 18 months he could remember.

Ew. not nice OP.

Yoo-hoo, OP, where are you? Or are you and DH otherwise engaged?

oK - It is also something i would certainly never do & just knowing the DC were able to interupt would be enough to put me off & i dont know how op never noticed her ds walking in or even him being on the bed...

however

Giraffe @ 17.55 said "sexual abuse involves forcing or enticing a child....."

i dont think op did this so i wouldnt say it was an offence, but i do think if it was more than a one off it could cause harm in the future. I can only assume that op & dp are very tactile in front of thier dc which is why he didnt seem bothered by what they were doing.

i think they youwl want to prove it was for hte OPs sexual gratifications

foul, really really foul.

dp and i both have memories from when we were that age... can you imagine if this is your ds's first memory

I'm inclined to believe it. Well, I would if the OP actually reappeared.

When DS was 18 months old he pretty juch got on with things himslef, especially in the morning while I snoozed.

Not all toddlers need or require constant supervision.

very wrong imo !!

the child didn't accidently see, they were aware he kept popping his head round the door so how can that be an accident ?

i really hope this isn't true

So you'd leave an 18 month old to his own devices while you went upstairs for a quick one?

I accidentally saw my parents when I was quite young...I don't think it has traumatised me. And what if they do remember later? There are much worse things to remember.

I'm not advocating this - OP, you need to keep sex out of your child's life, it just isn't appropriate, and your child could easily play-copy, or play with dolls in a sexual way - but I doubt a one-off accidental exposure to ordinary sexual activity is either criminal or damaging.

Bit dim, though - toddlers will always want to be where their parents are.

Really Eve? For 2 weeks? Sex isn't icky, I do think some posters are coming across as a bit too anal about this. If kids are asleep sex can still be enjoyed quite discreetly, it's not a naughty thing to do after all!

I believe it, my SIL is quite open about times her and her dh had sex whilst their 2 year old was awake and stood up in the travel cot.

We do it in shower on hols whilst dd sleeps

Even then I make dh stop and freeze every 5 mins to listen for movement from the other room

Recently we have been going on holiday with my parents so often 'nip to the shops' in the afternoon whilst they watch dd

Someone I know told me they have sex with their 18 month old ds in the room
Apparently he says 'Daddy finished now' when it's over

Weirdos

haven't read all the posts yet but I have to leap to the OP's defence here.

I'm sure they weren't performing the Karma sutra in front of their child, probably just a bit of subtle naughtiness under the duvet that wasn't that obvious.

also, I think for it to be an 'offence' you would have to be actively exposing your child to the sight of sex, not just having a quicky under the duvet while your toddler goes in and out of the room. Slight difference but a gross over reaction to call it an offence.

this is not a first time post or a name changer
which makes me think it is real rather than a wind up

I don't understand the uproar here. Sex is natural. We all have sex (at least, I'm making a broad assumption that we do!). One day, that little boy will be having sex! The "display" wasn't deliberate, nor was it intended as such. Make an issue out of it.. mountains, molehills, I'm sure you get the idea.

And yes, I appreciate it might not have been entirely appropriate for this exact situation have taken place in such close proximity, but come on now!

And shame on the posters whose knee jerk reaction is to call this a sexual offense.

Yes, if he was popping his head round the door you should have stopped.

Where you under the duvet?