To have sex infront of 18 month old

[TwoDotZero]

We were having a cuddle that turned into a bit of a quickie. Ds was playing in his room and occasionally sticking his head around the door but generally not paying much attention to us.

Afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on our bed, reading a book and showing me a picture.

He didn't seem at all bothered.
Thoughts?

Plenty of people have sex with their babies in the room. I think calling it a sexual offence is going too far.

this isnt a tiny baby asleep in a cot though is it

fgs get a grip OP

From the NSPCC -

Definition:
The official definition is "sexual abuse involves forcing or enticing a child or young person to take part in sexual activities including prostitution, whether or not the child is aware of what is happening. The activities may involve physical contact, including penetrative (e.g. rape, buggery or oral sex) or non-penetrative acts. They may include non-contact activities, such as involving children in looking at, or in the production of, pornographic material or watching sexual activities, or encouraging children to behave in sexually inappropriate ways" (DfES, 2006)

I wouldn't/couldn't

I often can't do it with DH in the room.

i am not calling it an offence
it IS an offence

It is so so so wrong, I am so shocked you even attempted a quickie whilst he was awake!

Gawd, can you not just exercise some restraint? If you feel amorous whilst in public you don't just get down and dirty in front of all and sundry, do you? This is your son.

YABU.

Not good.

Awful IMO and it IS an offence, it's not someone on here just deciding to call it an offence.

Lol@ Jamie!

YABU. I can't even give DH more than a quick kiss - def no tongues and no groping! - with DS in the room.

T'is very wrong

Babies are different to toddlers. Would never do this. Yuck.

that is terrible, he isnt a baby, he is a toddler picking up and learning things everyday...I remember things when I was 18 months....God, if saw my mum and dad at it I think I would need counselling, and would be scarred for life

No OP comment?

What if a child of 18 months old still shared the parents bedroom and it was at night?? I'm asking this because I'm going on holiday with dh and ds in october and ds will have to sleep in our room! I didnt think of what that entailed until now!

This is why DH and I are on enforced celibacy at the mo. Our 2.2yo is always wherever we are, literally no escape. I wouldn't even do it when she was in the moses basket. I just couldn't. Wrong wrong wrong.

Sorry - but you didn't notice him sat on your bed and reading a book

Oh and obviously yabu.

either
dont haev sex( gasp)
or have it when he is definitely asleep

i mean come on you are human not some rutting animal

OP is off gettin' down 'n' dirty while her toddler amuses himself

Not with DS awake! Would do it with him in room asleep but not awake! Yuk!

i can't even see how that would happen. so you finished and he was sat there showing you a picture ???? so he said nothing as he was showing you said picture??? hmmmm.

incidentally, i have had a look at the Act, and it sounds to me that its only an offence if you actively involve them, i.e. actively showing them. i think those shouting offence are being a little unreasonable as you are basically saying the OP has committed a crime, which is a little harsh.

still a bit though!

Yummyorslummy, im sure you will wait until your ds is asleep and not when he's wandering around, wont you?

YABVU

That is just wrong!!

Yummyorslummy - If you had sex in the same room presumably you'd have to keep one eye on ds incase he woke up? Dont know about you but I'd rather not.
Go in the bathroom? Dont have sex?

YummyorSlummy - I think that's a different situation. Plenty of people have sex whilst their child is asleep, but doing it when you know your child is awake and wandering in and out of your room is a whole 'nother ball game. I'm not sure I believe this actually. If it really happened, I think it'd more likely be in Chat in a "Arrghhh guess what happened" rather than "AIBU To Have Sex In Front of 18mo" What does that OP expect the answer to be?? No, it's fine, carry on as you are???! FGS.

Not good IMHO.

I find it hard enough to relax when the children are asleep in their own rooms. YABVU.

When we had the kids in the room with us on holiday last year (they are 2 and 6), we didn't do it at all, for the whole 2 weeks. It's just too icky to risk.