To have sex infront of 18 month old

[TwoDotZero]

We were having a cuddle that turned into a bit of a quickie. Ds was playing in his room and occasionally sticking his head around the door but generally not paying much attention to us.

Afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on our bed, reading a book and showing me a picture.

He didn't seem at all bothered.
Thoughts?

I s'pose that if there is anything positive to come out of this then far better for the toddler to see his parents showing affection to each other than fighting with each other. I have a couple of friends who clearly remember domestic violence at a very young age.

I don't think it's paedophilia but it is gross and shows a remarkable lack of self-restraint.
Why would you want to do that in front of your child? Yuk.
An 18 month year old should be perfectly safe in their own bedroom if you're that desperate for a 'quickie'. Ew.

Gawd I can't believe the response here. Dh and I were caught out doing stuff on a Sunday morning by a child a lot older than 18 months (but not that old iyswim). I won't give away the full details because I feel one of you would be on the phone to SS within 5 minutes, but it was all very subtle and under cover. I would defy most adults, let alone children to know what was going on.

I do admit to feeling a bit to this poster though, saying the child was on the bed. How on earth did they come into the room without you noticing? But the fact that you were grabbing a quickie when the child was awake is not that awful to me.

I feel a leeeetle bit sorry for the OP now.
From what I gathered from the OP it wasnt done on purpose and that she was shocked to find him sat there on the bed. She is probably sat there in bits now from some of these responses! We all make mistakes, yes, this is biggie but no harm done. It sounds like your DS didnt really pay much attention to your actual actions. I doubt he'll remember it when he is an adult.

"afterwards I turned around and came face to face with ds sitting on the bed"

what position were you in OP??? did you not feel him climb onto the bed?

did he see your naked bodies interlocked or just see movement under the duvet.

either way not enough parental care going on at that point.

sorry. but not good.

Obviously if you're under the duvet and his ass is not going up and down in some mad pumping porno-style action then presumably it would have just looked like daddy was cuddling mummy?

Hopefully you did it so that no naked flesh or groaning was on display

But they carried on in full knowledge they were being watched.
I feel very very concerned for this little boy

Shineon ... it isn't "strictly" an offence. It just isn't an offence: see the definition. Otherwise anyone whose kids walked in on them when they were at it would have committed an offence.

brassband, YOU are the one that has suggested they got turned on by the child watching...

what's that say about you?

Daily Mail anyone?

i agree with blu

I really hate posts with "Thoughts?" at the end. Seems like it is newspaper fodder and does anyone really talk like that irl.

YABU, you should have waited until he was asleep.

DG - but you stopped? Once you knew you were being um watched? Thats the point I think.

they obviously weren't turned off, were they?

brassband - i don't get the impression they knew he was actually watching. i don't even get it though tbh.

this is moving so quickly!

No JV, we didn't Or rather dh didn't. But what we were doing was far more subtle than this scenario.

god this thread has exploded.
yeah, it's gross, just make sure you've closed the door next time, or closed his door actually, so you'll be able to hear him open it and it'll alert you!
i wouldnt be able to concentrate with a child in the room if im honest....

Hmm. I would have stopped when he started 'sticking his head round the door' TBH.
I know as a parent of a small child times when you are in the mood may be few and far between but as Sue said, we aren't animals and can apply restraint when needed.

OOI, what did your DH think/say?

I wouldn't do it if my DS was popping his head round the door every now and then. I don't think it's paedophilia - I think that's more about forcing a child to watch a sex act rather than them accidentally seeing it but I do think it's a silly thing to do and I think waiting until the DC are asleep is a good idea.

And LMAO at 'turned into a bit of a quickie'. No, you decided to have a shag knowing that your DS might walk in at any moment - 'turned into' makes it sound like you were not involved in making that decision

actually the title is the problem
what actually happened was ill advised and shouldn't happen again, but not the end of the world
but the title is just provocative and gives a different impression to the OP

But she says that her DS was occasionally popping his head round the door , so how can she now say she doesn't know they were being watched?

He wasn't put off?
See I do find that weird, sorry dg, not sex offender weird but I just dont get how he could wnat to carry on.

They knew he could see them (he kept putting his head round the door) and they didn't ensure he couldn't get in the room (which, actually, wouldn't have been great, given the fact he's only 18 months).

AND they didn't notice he'd got on the bed.

It is completely inappropriate for a child to exposed to sexual activity.

You need to make very sure this never happens again.

No one should ever, ever have sex in the same house as a child, clearly. Parents wanting more than one dc go to Travelodges or summat when they're TTC. Those that don't are paedos.