it's not a tiny minority is it

[noddyington]

I do not know any women who have not had something bad or intimidating happen to them in their lifetime. Whether that be cat calling, followed, talked down to, pushed out of spaces, pushed over for promotion, assaulted, stalked, raped or murdered.

I do not know any women who have not changed their behaviour to try and keep themselves safe. It might be walking with keys between their fingers, getting a taxi when they'd rather walk, covering their drink when they are at a bar, not responding when a guy intimidates/heckles at them because it's safer, run or jog in groups, don't wear headphones walking late a night.........

AIBU to say that it's not a tiny minority of men is it?

So coming on a thread where women discuss trauma and calling women 'batshit' is really unhelpful.

Maybe some opinions are forceful, maybe you even think they are extreme or a bit daft. They are just words typed on a screen. Women aren't the ones doing all the bashing and raping.

No, female and have been all my life.

Did you read the posts I was referring to? They were batshit and not helping to address the situation.

Older lady here: I have been assaulted on lots of occasions, sexually and other type of physical. It happened a lot more to me in the 50s, 60s and 70s. Men have not really changed, it is that we now perceive it for what it is. Women now call it out now as bullying/sexual assault. And they are correct to report it, we accepted it as our lot in life and were wrong.

So who do we blame?

Maybe it'd be better if we stopped focusing on blame and actually looked at solutions.

I'll never understand why so many women are so desperate to become victims. I'm reading all these comments about how 'men get angry when we talk about xyz' and honestly it mostly sounds like delusions of importance.

Most men couldn't give a shit. They're just normal people going about their lives. I think it's far more likely that men just hate being fempecked. Self righteous feminists and woke people are annoying as fuck tbh and mostly only interested in lecturing and checking the privilege of others. If you dare utter the phrase 'white feminism' you'll often see their true colours and how they'll rarely practice what they preach.

I don't know which ones you were referring to, but my point was sometimes women are just venting.

What would you call it?

Misanthropy? Sociopathology?

Most of these men probably don't treat their fellow men any better. They just have the survival instinct to know when to wind their necks in - usually when speaking to a bloke that's likely to kick their arse.

Well, these tend to be the cultures that drive the widespread opposition to immigration. People on here are usually very scathing about men that oppose mass immigration of young males from these countries.

Bridezillla is used almost exclusively by women!

Also, it's common to refer to somebody as 'a right penis' or 'a sausage'. Or a knob/knobhead/dick/dickhead/cock/wanker/tosser/tosspot/prick/wankstain/etc.

The vast majority of insults are related to male features. Aside from calling somebody 'a cunt' which is generally frowned upon much more than the above. Or maybe 'a tit' which is often used humourously/affectionately.

I don't think it's only women that suffer this. It's also much more acceptable to say "I'd chop his balls off if he did that" than it is for a bloke to say "I'd chop her tits off'.

The negativity around religion and immigration usually has male behaviour at the root of it. Even female based animosity like “women in burka’s” has come about because men came up with modesty.
Fatal dog attacks are predominantly breeds owned by men.

Of course there are lovely strong, kind good men. Their values aren’t the overriding ones within masculinity currently.

I don't know what to call it. It's foreign to me. I could barely stand to get cross at my kids, my empathy for others is huge. I don't know what it must be like to lack that.

I can’t remember the exact statistics but something like 7/10 men would commit SA if they knew there would be no consequences.
The biggest problem (for me) is the ones that say I wouldn’t do it therefore it must be bollocks. They don’t want to rock the boat with their dodgy mates either or call out unpleasant/ unnecessary bollocks and justify it with “it’s a joke”.