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To sleep in the garden tonight

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NotQuiteUsual · Today 20:50

My beautiful dog is going to be put down tomorrow. Shes in pain and the cool air and grown outside seems to offer some relief. She doesnt like to be alone. So I'm thinking about just sleeping in the garden to join her. But im aware that for one I'm grieving and thats clouding my judgement and for two I don't have the most clear judgement anyway.

I should add I'm a scout leader so I'm not afraid of the elements. Its dry and pretty temperate here tonight and I have a lovely double sleeping bag to cosy up in.

Aibdriven mad from grief or should I go for it?

To sleep in the garden tonight
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holachicatita · Today 21:54

Beautiful dog. I'm so sorry. She's lucky to have you and you've been lucky to have her.

raspberrychocolatecake · Today 21:55

She's a beautiful girl. Spending the night outside with her is something that will hopefully give you comfort in the days ahead, knowing that you did this last thing for her in order to make her comfortable and content with you nearby. She's very lucky to have someone like you.
Sending love and hugs ❤️💐

seahorsessky · Today 21:55

I'm so sorry. Ours always went in the garden. Of course you should go, if you want to.

Gremlins101 · Today 21:56

Do it. Big hugs x

Kimmielee · Today 21:56

When our gorgeous pup was terminally ill, we took turns sleeping downstairs with her for her last week. You know what’s right.

AgentPidge · Today 21:56

She's gorgeous. I'm so sorry for what you have to face tomorrow. Definitely sleep outside with her.

shhblackbag · Today 21:57

I would. So sorry about your beautiful dog.

BeautifulLittlePumpkin · Today 21:59

This is sad. I hope the stars are shining tonight out there. ♥️

Damnloginpopup · Today 22:00

I wish you a beautiful last night together, one last lovely memory.

Keepgettingolder81 · Today 22:00

I would sleep on a barbed wire fence if it was my dogs last night on earth. Do it.

Imupforthat · Today 22:00

I am so sorry. She is an absolute beauty and I’m so sorry your journey together is coming to an end. Wishing you both a peaceful night and my thoughts are with you. Xx

cantthinkofagoodusername2026 · Today 22:00

Absolutely do it, you won’t regret it and you will
make your old friend happy for her last night. Virtual hugs, I know what you’re going through and it’s just heartbreaking xx

Edit to add that we all cuddled up together on the floor with our beloved cat for his last night with us. I could see in his eyes that it mattered to him. That thought gives me some comfort x

DurhamDime · Today 22:06

Of course if that would be comforting for both of you then it’s the perfect solution.

My last night with my beautiful cat I slept with her even though she was stinky and bedraggled, we made her a (waterproof) nest between us and she cuddled and purred and we all slept well.

I’m sure if she was apart from me I’d have laid awake sad and worrying and feeling like I should have been checking on her.

Sending you all the love.

alcovecupboards · Today 22:07

She's beautiful and it will bring her comfort so spend the night under the stars with her. I'm so sorry for the situation you're in but she's clearly loved and happy and you've done that for her.

ITMA2000 · Today 22:10

NotQuiteUsual · Today 20:58

Well the sleeping bag is out and my onesie and thick socks are on. She won't cuddle with me cos she hates feeling too warm, but my smell will make her happy

My Goldie is 12 and a half and struggling with life. I've only just learned paracetamol is good for dogs (the liquid sort) as well as joint meds.We stick together like glue from now on, she is always settling on my feet anyway!

SoftBoiled · Today 22:10

Sleeping out of doors is healing -it aligns us with the elements and something greater than our smaller, indoor lives.
Join your friend and spend the night together ❤️

Thesehills · Today 22:12

She's so beautiful. I'm so very sorry, what terrible, terrible heart break.

Absolutely whatever she needs and makes her happy, sleeping in the garden will be a special time for you both. She'll be happy there with you.

I'm sending you love and strength.

Gogo4 · Today 22:12

newmommy2006yay · Today 20:53

see if anyone can lend you a sleeping bag?

Why?

newmommy2006yay · Today 22:14

Gogo4 · Today 22:12

Why?

so you dont get a cold

Rejoinedforthis · Today 22:14

Oh OP she’s gorgeous. I’d give anything for one more night with my lovely old boy who we lost last year. Do it, I don’t think it’s a mad idea at all. ❤️

Gogo4 · Today 22:15

OP clearly states she has a warm double sleeping bag?

Gogo4 · Today 22:16

newmommy2006yay · Today 22:14

so you dont get a cold

OP clearly states she has a warm double sleeping bag?

sunflowerwater · Today 22:16

NotQuiteUsual · Today 20:58

Well the sleeping bag is out and my onesie and thick socks are on. She won't cuddle with me cos she hates feeling too warm, but my smell will make her happy

She's so beautiful. I'm heartbroken for you. Enjoy your night in the garden with your beautiful girl x

BetterWithPockets · Today 22:18

Sending much love, OP. We had our lovely girl PTS last month and both my DD and I slept with her on her final night. Your girl is beautiful. Xx

Elsvieta · Today 22:18

Well done, you're making her feel safe and happy. She's very beautiful.