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To sleep in the garden tonight

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NotQuiteUsual · Today 20:50

My beautiful dog is going to be put down tomorrow. Shes in pain and the cool air and grown outside seems to offer some relief. She doesnt like to be alone. So I'm thinking about just sleeping in the garden to join her. But im aware that for one I'm grieving and thats clouding my judgement and for two I don't have the most clear judgement anyway.

I should add I'm a scout leader so I'm not afraid of the elements. Its dry and pretty temperate here tonight and I have a lovely double sleeping bag to cosy up in.

Aibdriven mad from grief or should I go for it?

To sleep in the garden tonight
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BiscuitBarrel2 · Today 21:30

Do it - my sister recently slept in the garden in just a sleeping bag with our very old family dog who is most certainly deaf and was refusing to come into the house. Her remaining time with us is limited and my sister’s view was she’ll do whatever that doggy wants for as long as we still have her 🤍

OddSocksAreCool · Today 21:31

Do it, we all slept in the living room with our dcat the night before he died. His decline was very sudden and he didn't have the energy to get upstairs. I'm so sorry. She's so lucky to have you x

letsgoanonforthis · Today 21:31

I would sleep outside with her, no doubts at all.
So sorry for what's coming tomorrow 💔

arrabellarock · Today 21:37

You sound like such a lovely owner. I bet she’s had a wonderful life. I also vote sleeping outside with her. It’ll be a special memory of your last night together.

wifty · Today 21:37

What a sweet baby, good luck with tomorrow and sending you so much love x

Do it xx

LondonLass2026 · Today 21:38

My partner slept on the kitchen floor with our lovely dog, on the dog's final night a few years ago. Coupled with a LOT of trips to the garden as the poor dog was SO thirsty (caused by his illness) and kept needing the garden to do his business. None of us got any sleep. I was upstairs with our other dog, but didn't sleep one bit.

I'm so sorry, op. Do what you need to do, and you won't regret it.

💐 🩷

fruitypancake · Today 21:39

I would 🥰🥰🥰🥰

MassiveOvaryaction · Today 21:40

Sorry about your lovely girl Flowers Can I suggest a bin bag under your sleeping bag/mat to save you from the damp.

Ivegotonehandinmypocket · Today 21:41

Aww I defo would! Sleep well and I’m so sorry xxx

Redpaisley · Today 21:41

Do it please. Spend every remaining minute with your fur baby ❤️😒

user1471548941 · Today 21:41

Your lovely doggie’s last memory will be of you staying with her exactly where she is most comfortable- what a lovely thing to give her. Thinking of you x

Spaniels4Eva · Today 21:42

Wishing your girl a peaceful journey tomorrow, and do whatever feels right tonight. There is no right or wrong.

Spriggs · Today 21:42

She is gorgeous. So sorry for you and your little girl. Do it.

Nosdacariad · Today 21:43

So sorry my darling 💐💐💐

SurferRona · Today 21:45

What a beautiful girl, and what a lovely way to honour her last night with you. Do it OP, it’s a lovely gesture. Just spend these hours with her, she’ll love it. Hope it all happens peacefully tomorrow, they tell us when it’s time ❤️ but it’s hard for us. Hugs.

MyGirlJ · Today 21:46

Do it! The night before my childhood dog was put to sleep, I slept on the sofa with her. If she'd wanted to be outside, I'd have slept outside with her too. Don't have regrets.

Alittlefrustrated · Today 21:47

She's beautiful ❤️

PrancingPanda · Today 21:49

Beautiful dog. Yes, do it for her, it will become a precious memory.
So sorry ❤️❤️

Ijwwm · Today 21:49

Beautiful girl and lovely owner. Wishing you a peaceful night together under the stars. Those who understand these bonds know why we go those extra steps for them. The hardest thing to do, but the greatest show of our love - giving them a dignified and peaceful passing.

NormalityIsOverrated · Today 21:49

I’m s dog person but you have my sympathy. Sleep outside with your cat xx

DavidRosesEyebrows · Today 21:51

I slept on the bathroom floor the last night with my boy. I say do it. Love for tomorrow 💕

Pippa12 · Today 21:53

She’s a beautiful dog- so very sad. I’d so whatever was needed for tonight 💐

Kimmielee · Today 21:54

be with her.this is what makes us human.

CombatBarbie · Today 21:54

I slept downstairs on the floor beside mine when we found out he was stage 4 aggressive cancer that didnt show itself. I done that for a week before we sent him.to sleep. Id never have forgiven myself if I found him gone and alone

bettyrubble99 · Today 21:54

Do it. I'm so sorry OP. She is a beautiful girl and no doubt gave you so much love and memories over the years. Sending you my love & sympathies. I had to let my old boy go in 2019. It broke my heart but he was riddled with arthritis and I couldnt bare the thought of him in pain. 🫶🏻🌈