AIBU to miss my sister's Moroccan wedding with an eight-week-old?

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My Sister is getting married next year abroad in Morocco. I am due to give birth to my 2nd child about 8 weeks before. Our other child is 3yo.

Do you think it would be completely mad of us to go to the wedding with an 8 week old baby who’s only just had their first set of vaccinations?

Then there’s the whole fact we probably will be generally very sleep deprived too.

DH thinks we should just miss it and avoid the stress. I do obviously want to go but maybe it would be too much?

YABU - go to the wedding (with newborn, 3yo and DH)

YANBU - you should stay at home and miss the wedding.

You have to be joking right?
😂

I think posters are missing the crucial drip feed that OP will be attending the ceremony locally anyway,, prior to the 'destination wedding'

Are you insane? You think someone should put off their child for a bloody fake Moroccan wedding? Absolutely ridiculous.

And the fact you're calling it selfish is just something else. Are you actually serious or was that a poorly written joke?

I travelled alone with my baby when she was that agar to visit my family abroad and the airline were very helpful, it was absolutely fine, if you want to go then you should!

I wouldn’t risk it particularly with a new born and 3 year old but then I would avoid Morocco anyway. I had a really bad case of food poisoning after being extremely careful and only eating in our 5* hotel, no ice and only bottled water etc. My doctor’s face after I said I just been to Morocco said it all and she wrote Morocco in big letters across the testing paperwork. Perhaps I’m ultra cautious but I was really ill for ages.

When we conceived they were already engaged but hadn’t set a date for the wedding so we didn’t know when it was going to be, and at that point it wasn’t even necessarily a destination wedding.

Haven't rtft so I'm not sure if this has been mentioned but, if you need a c section you won't be able to fly for 6-8 weeks.

Also, vaccines take around 2 weeks to take effect so an 8 week old who has only just received them will not be protected. Baby will have some passive immunity from your breast milk though.

At 8 weeks I had started going to mums groups. I wouldn't have considered abroad, temperatures, bugs

And I was still in agony with lots of things

Unfortunately it would be a no.

Congratulations on writing the most unhinged thing I’ve ever read on MN.

Nope I would not go. You don’t have to explain why, it’s your sisters choice to marry abroad, you are at a completely different point in your life. What if your due date goes over and you have a c section? What if your children are not well? Too many possible hiccups to be able to commit to her wedding in my view.

WTAF! What a ridiculous thing to say!

Tell her you can see how it goes and leave to book after the birth. If that causes problems for numbers and bookings then just decline...or only book cancellable /changeable options for flights and accomodation

Don’t do it OP it will be way too stressful with a new born.

So a lot of money and flaff and will actually all ready be marrie

what’s the point

I has a destination wedding. Antigua. But actually got married there

seems a bit fake having a huge do but it’s not actually legal

OP, are you actually being put under any pressure to attend? If not, I just wouldn't worry about going. It's not the actual wedding, it's just an after-party.

Absolutely wrong! TTC a child shouldn’t be put on hold for a wedding party. OP is going to the legal ceremony which is the most important bit.

Bonkers

With DC1 I was averaging 4 hours' broken sleep a night at that age. Travelling would have about killed us all.

My second we couldn't get the vaccinations done at 8 weeks it was more like 10 due to a lack of appts.

Oh god no. It was a major event getting to Asda with my two at that age, Sleep deprived beyond belief. Have a another do when they come home, and get some babysitters in x

Absolutely this. And even if baby is fine, what if you get D and V with a breastfeeding newborn?

I love Morocco but did get a tummy upset, and was very careful, lovely hotels etc. It can just be the different pathogens and bacteria in the food etc, even if hygiene is fantastic.

Oh god no. It was a major event getting to Asda with my two at that age,

Nothing on MN has made me laugh louder than this! Love it!😂

Not Morocco or anywhere abroad with an 8 week old. Did she book it before or during your pregnancy?

But you also write “Unfortunately they started planning it all before I was pregnant so at the time this wasn’t an issue.”

which is it?

For a sister I would have 100% checked before TTC knowing she was engaged but maybe you guys aren’t that close.

i do think with a baby you are right to skip it.

A friend's daughter recently flew out to Spain for one night to attend her brother's wedding ... left her six week old with her DH and in laws.

All depends how you feel at that stage really.