AIBU to miss my sister's Moroccan wedding with an eight-week-old?

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My Sister is getting married next year abroad in Morocco. I am due to give birth to my 2nd child about 8 weeks before. Our other child is 3yo.

Do you think it would be completely mad of us to go to the wedding with an 8 week old baby who’s only just had their first set of vaccinations?

Then there’s the whole fact we probably will be generally very sleep deprived too.

DH thinks we should just miss it and avoid the stress. I do obviously want to go but maybe it would be too much?

YABU - go to the wedding (with newborn, 3yo and DH)

YANBU - you should stay at home and miss the wedding.

It sounds like you would like to be there, but (understandably!) you cant know for sure until baby is here.

Would your sister be OK if you had to pull out a few weeks before the wedding? If so, I would book a refundable hotel and refundable flights, and hedge your bets.

I went to a friend's wedding abroad when my eldest was 7 weeks. It was so easy and I'm glad I went. The hardest bit was getting a passport in time, I had to go to London with my baby to do it but it wasn't that bad.

I say do it! They are so portable at that age and your toddler will be ok, we travelled with ours at that age and it was all fine.

I wouldn’t as it’s Morocco. I wouldn’t want an unvaccinated baby going, at 8 weeks they may or may not have had vaccinations yet and they take a week or two to give proper immunity. 8 weeks post birth is just too young.

I wouldn’t entertain it with an 8 week old baby but
what’s the healthcare situation there?
People who get married abroad take the chance that people may not be able to attend due to the inconvenience of it.

No. I wouldn't go. It at least id say I wont be there. And then if it all went swimmingly well, then I might change my mind at the last minute. Rather that than have to cancel at the last minute.

I've been to Morocco twice and was really ill on both occasions. DD was so ill I took her to A&E ( very rare occurrence in our house) I would not take a newborn - too risky

This takes me back to getting a passport for a 3mo. God that was fun. Good luck with getting a passport for a 2 week old...

If you really want to go I think it can be done, I'd be keeping baby very close in a baby carrier the whole time.

I think it would be 100% understandable if you don't go.

Having been to Morocco last year I wouldn’t be taking a small baby there who potentially hadn’t had all their injections. I didn’t feel it was as clean or as safe as a European country and I definitely wouldn’t want my baby to have to use a hospital there. Mind you I probably still wouldn’t go if it was France or Spain, but I would be a fraction more likely!

i think you should plan not to attend.

I think your stance is most reasonable decide when the baby comes. Breastfeeding, especially when you have already breastfed an older child, does make this somewhat possible but as other posters have suggested birth is uncertain so nothing can be guaranteed.

I think 8 weeks is too young. Their immunity isn’t good and there is so much to handle with the airport, plane, being abroad, being potentially passed around many people… I’d be so stressed.

If you’re not planning on breastfeeding and you’re fine to leave your baby (and 3 year old) and you feel physically fine then go for it.

I personally wouldn’t leave my baby, and I wouldn’t be able to feel physically (or mentally) ok at 8 weeks postpartum.

Baby could also be late or you could have a traumatic birth.

I agree with others that to choose a destination wedding you’ve got to be okay with the idea that it could just be the two of you getting married, in case other family can’t or don’t want to travel.

My DD would not have been compatible with a trip like this at 8 weeks. She just wasn’t that kind of baby.

Your sister decided to plan a wedding that she knew could be impossible for people with babies, health problems, or disabilities to attend. She chose a location over family.

I would 95% likely go, but I wouldn’t want to commit completely because you just never know how you’ll feel at the time or what kind of birth/recovery you’d have so it’s difficult.

That’s so tough because I’d be devastated to miss my sisters wedding. I took my son on holiday at 12 weeks which was doable but 8 weeks is early. Also last time I went to Marrakesh I caught a stomach bug so you have to be mindful of sticking to bottled water etc. Only you can decide but good luck and wishing you and your baby a healthy and happy birth!

I definitely wouldn’t commit to going, because as you say, if the baby is a bit late they might not have had their 8 week jabs.

Not a great destination for a baby. Just say 100% no! Way too risky.

No I wouldnt. Not with such a young baby

We travelled to the USA with our ds when he was 3 months old for a family wedding. Getting the passport in time was tough and it was hard work travelling when we were so tired anyway. Babies are portable but add in a (much less portable) toddler and that your baby could be much younger than 8 weeks and I wouldn't.

If the baby is late, then that’s 6 weeks to register the birth and then get the passport sorted, on top of everything else that comes along with having a newborn and a new child.
i wouldn’t want to miss my sisters wedding but this might be rather tricky.

I took DD to Rome when she was 8 weeks old. We didn’t book it until after she was born and we knew everything was ok though. Marrakech seems a bit different though.

I don’t know why you wouldn’t

Took my 7 week old and a toddler to Spain for a holiday and it was brilliant. The only thing that would concern me in your situation is the quality of healthcare available in Morocco. Other than that, I’d happily go provided everything goes well with the birth and recovery.

I travelled with our youngest at 8 weeks old to a similar destination, couldn't have been easier as babe just mostly fed and slept....if no complications I think it would be fine....hard to know that in advance though!

8 wk is not enough time to get all necessary vaccinations for Morocco.

I would try and go, but I wouldn't commit yet, if that's an option. See when baby is born and if the timeline looks doable for passport and vaccines.

We just did a 10 hour flight with our toddler and 10 week old. I did want to get the baby their vaccines but their was a mix up and we just had to go anyway. It was all fine.