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AIBU to feel used in a friends with benefits arrangement?

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AdeptLilacHare · 12/09/2026 11:38

I just wanted someone to shed some light on FWB situations. So, I’ve met this guy 3 times now just for sex, nothing more. But literally we just meet for sex, there’s texting up until and around the actual meet mainly just trying to find when we’re both free, who’s hosting etc. then we meet for sex then nothing. No text after, no casual conversation in between nothing at all. Then in about 2/3 weeks I’ll get a “when are you next free” text
I have to clarify I’ve never done this before I’ve always had relationships which is obviously completely different and I aware that I shouldn’t expect much more than casual sex which is fine. But, literally just sex and no actual chatting or hanging out in between is making me feel a little used. I’m unsure how to feel do I just accept this for what it is, what’s everyone’s experiences on similar situations? Am I just expecting too much for something that’s supposed to be casual?

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BlueFahrenheit · 16/09/2026 14:58

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Busymorn · Yesterday 14:51

If you saw someone on the dating app that you liked @AdeptLilacHare but they were looking for a proper relationship rather than a FWB scenario - would you swipe left? Are you only looking for a FWB scenario hence your profile saying as such?

AdeptLilacHare · Yesterday 19:13

Busymorn · Yesterday 14:51

If you saw someone on the dating app that you liked @AdeptLilacHare but they were looking for a proper relationship rather than a FWB scenario - would you swipe left? Are you only looking for a FWB scenario hence your profile saying as such?

I don’t want a relationship so no I wouldn’t swipe left

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Morninginesa · Today 09:45

AdeptLilacHare · Yesterday 19:13

I don’t want a relationship so no I wouldn’t swipe left

Why don’t you want a relationship? You want sex, who want a connection and to chat. Any particular reason why not?

Any joy since being back on the apps?

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