Dh angry I don't sweep up the leaves every day

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I don't give a crap about the leaves in the front and back garden, yes it looks lovely when all tidy but I have enough to do.
I work part time, very part time, but I do everything else, all in the house, food shop, cooking, washing, care of Dc, school runs, school meetings, bill payments, dog walks, vets, picking up dog poo, everything.
Literally the only thing I cannot be arsed doing is sweeping up all the leaves every day. I've never said it needs to be done and have never done it as don't care either way.
Dh always sweeps and sorts garden, great, it looks nice, but no one says he has to.
Second time tonight after work that he was storming around angrily, muttering under his breath about having to be the one who always does it, slamming around angrily.
The last time he made a comment, I told him outright that i'm not doing it on top of doing every other single thing in the house and with Dc.

It's because I only work a few hours.

Aibu or is he?

Leaf clearing is not a normal daily task for most households

Different when you have a plastic lawn though I’m sure, especially in autumn. Though every few days might still be okay?

OP should really have put the detail that her lawn is a fake one rather than a grass one in her OP. It’s in a later post but people keep missing it and it makes a difference.

She is NOT working very part time.

We have to fight this internalised misogyny.

Women have been historically forced into domestic work. We were not allowed to earn money or own property. We were seen as inferior. So the work that we historically took on (child rearing, house keeping, laundry, cooking, meal planning etc) has been seen as unimportant and inferior while the big important man with his big important job was seen as superior.

When women went on strike it was very evident that this unpaid, unrecognised labour is actually important and valuable. If we employed cleaners, nanny’s, house keepers, cooks etc that would come with a financial cost. Women often end up providing all this for free.

The OP performs all those functions and works in a paid role part time.

She does not work very part time - she probably works much longer hours than his paid role. My bet would be he has far more leisure time than her. If she worked in a paid role for more hours then he would have to do more of those unpaid functions or they would have to outsource it. Because it all needs doing.

May be tidy the leaves and put them on his side of the bedroom. Tidy his clothes etc and put them on the lawn.

NB this is not good advice. But it would make the point that you clean up the mess that HE makes out of choice. Now he expecting you to clean up after a bloody tree as well.

PLEASE read Eve Rodesky - Fair Play.

You have to stop saying you only work 12 hours. Sounds like you work a lot more hours than that. And a lot more hours than him?

How much time do you both get for hobbies, watching TV etc. is it equal?

I'll be pining fir each joke! I am evergreen with jealousy at your talent.

Those are such interesting points @Aboiledfrogturnedzombie. I wonder how much it would cost to outsource all that labour (childminder/cleaner/ironing service) over the cost of a week, or month. Not sure how many DC the OP has. It's similar to how carers view themselves - they receive £80 a week and save the state a fortune, because care as in 'paid care' costs a king's ransom.

Can you imagine the impact on society if all that free labour was suddenly withdrawn?

Or people can just put 😆..

Feels entitled to your labour🙄
To command that of you🚩

Get a leaf blower it does get quite addictive

How does this actually work? Does t it just blow leaves to another part of the garden ?

OP just leave the leaves alone! He can huff and puff as much as he wants. Give him the side eye and walk away. He will eventually get the message that's it's his job.

The point of the thread by OP really isn't even about leaf management but how her DH is being a lazy arse man child who finishes work at 4.30!

The NHS was set up to support people 'cradle to grave' there is a cross over to care as without it people would access NHS more. Ie Dorris needs help to get to the toilet otherwise she might fall and fracture her hip needing a hospital admission.

Child care wasn't set up in the way apart from child benefits.