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She took me to her abortion and is pregnant again couple weeks later

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Peaceofmind12 · 01/09/2026 12:16

My friend had an abortion last month, as she had been with this guy for two months and in that time, her beat her up and was verbally abusing her. She wanted me to come with her which I did. I don’t know why, but for some reason I found the whole experience a little traumatising but I never said anything to her about how all of it made me feel as she was going through a lot. Her abusive boyfriend was constantly calling me to get to her, she was crying loads and I was emotional support as she wanted to terminate the pregnancy so the guy could not ruin her life. Couple weeks later she is back with him and pregnant again after the abortion. She keeps saying she wants me to support her etc but I’ve completely checked out. I don’t know what she’s doing I think she’s making a mistake and I just don’t know what to say to her.

i feel conflicted as I feel like I’m not being a good friend by not congratulating her. But at the same time I’m so taken back we went to the clinic to terminate the other pregnancy so she could get away from him and now she’s back with him and pregnant again

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Peaceofmind12 · 01/09/2026 13:58

She could be lying I don’t know. But if she is lying after dragging me through all of that with her then I would be saying she’s a evil person

@Peaceofmind12 Give her a list of places she can get help - Women's Aid, National Domestic Abuse Helpline, local charities etc. and then tell her 'no more' from you. You're being emotionally and psychologically impacted by her irresponsible behaviour and your relationship with her is joyless. Cut her out of your life.

Movingonup313 · 02/09/2026 07:40

She sounds troubled and/or an attention seeker. I would be worried that she has fallen foul of his abusive traits and that is how she is back with him.

You have a hard decision to make. I dont envy you. FWIW I didnt ditchy my bestie when she took back a then hopeless drug abusing party animal, then she fell pregnant. Hated him for 15 years till he grew up! Supported her through lots of crap times.
If.you stick with her, boundaries will help you with how much you are willing/able to do. He may turn her against you anyway.if he is a bad un.
Good luck

comeoncolleen · 04/09/2026 16:30

Peaceofmind12 · 01/09/2026 13:58

She could be lying I don’t know. But if she is lying after dragging me through all of that with her then I would be saying she’s a evil person

She may be attention seeking and irresponsible (as well as dishonest, possibly) but she doesn't sound evil. You are so bothered by this, it might be better to avoid her for a while.

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