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Feeling very sorry for myself after being cancelled on

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Su1345 · 09/08/2026 11:44

I’m late 30s, single parent to one dd age 4. I started talking with someone I knew from university, a few months ago. Long story short, we were due to meet today at 11am for a coffee and brunch and he messaged at 10:24 to say he couldn’t make it as he slept outside last night after a party.

Im not so much emotionally hurt as I am just feeling a bit of, i don’t know, sadness? My lovely little girl is with her dad today and he took her out early so I could have time to get ready. It wasn’t an official date but obviously having not met a man one to one like this for years I was reasonably nervous and I took my time getting ready and choosing what to wear. We’ve also had lots of flirty messages and so on. I was on the way when I got the message.

More than anything I just feel a bit shit about the fact I’m almost 40, single and all dressed up with literally no place to go. So I’m sitting in the car for a moment where I’ve pulled over to write this. I can’t work out my feelings, just feel mostly really stupid and my child free time is so precious and I’ve let him his man do this to me.

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KeepPumping · 25/08/2026 12:14

PinkEasterbunny · 25/08/2026 06:52

I don’t think she was trying to win (are there ever any winners when someone breaks your heart?), she wanted support in getting through the situation and doing her best not to reply.

No, she was trying to get through, I get that but I just felt "inspirational" was a bit over the top, she wasn"t fighting a life threating disease she had just invested far too much in a guy that wasn"t similarly invested.

Anarchy99 · 25/08/2026 17:34

KeepPumping · 25/08/2026 12:14

No, she was trying to get through, I get that but I just felt "inspirational" was a bit over the top, she wasn"t fighting a life threating disease she had just invested far too much in a guy that wasn"t similarly invested.

Exactly, and she had to be talked out of replying by internet strangers. There may be another thread where she did something ‘inspiring’ but not that one.

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