AIBU to expect my wife to mention changing her working hours?

[ByScott]

Last week I had a few issues and couldn’t contact my wife so had to call her work.

It emerged that not only had she reduced her hours to .75 but she had compacted them so only works 3 days a week.

She never told me this. Should she have?

Should I mention this to her?

It doesn’t particularly impact on me and had she discussed it with me I wouldn’t have had anything to say about it.

I thought the post made it clear that he thinks he should’ve been told!

Lots of people are saying "just ask her" but, well, she doesn't exactly sound very honest or trustworthy. Can you be sure she'll tell the truth?

Reducing your income and reducing your working days are big changes. It's something that should come up naturally in a hundred different ways when planning it, looking at finances, getting used to your long days, spending your extra days off. I'm a lesbian so hardly an expert on men, but surely even the most cloth-eared husband should pick up on that?

So to me this sounds like a sustained, deliberate deceit, and OP will need to approach this carefully if he wants the truth.

Has anyone pointed out yet that it’s school holidays and therefore the 14 year old is fully aware that his mother is in the house for two weekdays? Wouldn’t the kid mention that they had had lunch with their mum or gone to buy stuff or she’d given them a lift etc?
Im thinking that more than one person is lying.

Weird not to mention. I couldn’t imagine doing this big then our finances and childcare are tight so would have impacted more maybe

Do you think she is having an affair?

I compacted my hours to 4 days and didn’t tell my ex because I desperately DESPERATELY needed time to myself in that marriage. Maybe you just need to ask her?

That's exactly what I thought!

For heavens' sake, man, just ask her! We all want to know what she's up to.

Are you sure she didn't tell you?

Last week I had a few issues and couldn’t contact my wife so had to call her work.

What were the issues that you needed to call her at work? You've referred also to 'your dramas'? Are you often hassling her during her working day? Why couldn't you leave a message and wait till she got back to you?
I agree it's unusual she didn't tell you about changing her hours and I can't imagine not telling my DH. But at the same time my husband wouldn't call my work because he was having issues.

Well, yours might do. Doesn't it depend on what the issue was?

I'd expect he would if it was a health related emergency for him or a DC. Not for a few issues or dramas he was having.

This!

you not asking her is equally odd to her bit telling you. It may be the colleague got mixed up and she is simply having an annual leave day

Well, OP doesn't say what the issues were. We can't assume they were unimportant.