AIBU to feel put out being asked to bring dessert and ice?

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I will probably get told I’m being unreasonable here but I’m ready if that’s the case 😂 my friend has invited me and my two kids to stay over for the night, it’s been planned for ages, and ahead of next week I’ve been asked to pick up dessert and ice because she doesn’t know what to get the kids for pudding… it’s lovely that she’s having us, but if I were hosting I’d provide food and drinks, not because I have loads of money or anything but I just feel like that’s what you do when friends come over. I would always bring a bottle over to the hosts house whenever I go somewhere, and so maybe this is the equivalent but I don’t know, something about this is making me annoyed and I’m not sure why!

Em yeah it’s not a big deal - do you reciprocate ?

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YABU

Have my single friend stay at mine with me and my kids? Or do you mean reciprocate with food and drinks?

Sorry, yabu! Plus you get to choose whatever dessert you like!

I'd have thought the dessert would be cheaper to buy than wine.

How very odd, tight and petty of you.

If your having desserts then I assume she's providing the main by the sounds of it? And probably breakfast in the morning
YABU

Usually friends ask me "is there anything I can bring" to which I sometimes say "no nothing don't worry about it" and sometimes "lovely please could you bring salad/whatever I don't have ". I agree it's mildly off to ask instead of be asked but I think it's just one to put out your mind and maybe try and be pleased she's up front instead?

Yea do you have her round yours? Does she have kids? When they come - her and her kids - do you provide it all?

I always feel mean asking people to bring stuff when I host, I guess it’s my love language and would feel weird inviting someone over but then asking for something in return. I guess I should stop feeling mean and ask!

If friends invite us I always ask, what can I bring: pudding, cheese? Why wouldn’t you take something with you so your friends/ host don’t have to do all the work?

What a weird reaction, your friend has done nothing wrong whatsoever.

Kindly OP you are staying in someone’s house and they have asked you to pick up ice and a dessert so less then a tenner contribution. There is zero rude about your friend asking this.

I really don't see the issue, unless you've got a long journey where the ice would all melt.

Just pick up some ice and a pudding and go and have a lovely evening with your friend.

I never go empty handed to a friend’s house and if they’re arranging food, etc, I always ask what I can bring to make life easier for them.

Because friends aren’t petty about stuff like that.

Christ on a bike, love language.

Always round at mine! And no kids. I haven’t had invited her to stay because I don’t have a spare room. I provide it all, yes.

Imagine feeling put out by a fiver. Friggin hell fire.

You say you’d always bring a bottle so what’s the difference between you bringing that and something she’d actually find useful. Plus she’s doing it so your kids get something they like.

My friends and family always ask do you want me to bring anything. If the host says yes we do if they say no we don’t. It would really stress me out having a friend I couldn’t just have an honest conversation with.

Oh gosh yes YABVU!

I’d probably bring it without any prompting, especially as you say she doesn’t have kids.

YABU. I’d have asked what to bring.

I’m more than happy to stand corrected, thank you 🩷

She told you that she doesn't know what to get the kids for dessert, she wants to make sure they enjoy themselves and have something they like, so what's the big deal in picking up something you know everyone will enjoy?

You want her to pay for dinner, dessert and breakfast for you and your kids, and she's single, and no kids?
Come on. The entitlement is off the chart.

WTF is love language ??