Holiday - to rebook or let them go?

[HealthConcerns24]

As a family we have had a “dream holiday” booked for around a year that took 3 years to save for. We are due to go in 3 weeks and it’s for a 3 week holiday. It’s me, my husband and our 2 children in early to late teens.

This past weekend I ended up in hospital with a pretty serious health event, think cardio, and I cannot travel for this holiday, still in hospital and not sure how long I’ll be here for.

Just today my husband said we needed to discus the holiday. I thought he was going to discuss moving it to another time in which I can come but no, he seems to think is acceptable that the 3 of them go and I stay home and recover, alone, and just don’t go at all.

AIBU to think we should just rebook the whole thing until I’m well enough to go or am I selfish to even consider asking them to stay home and rebook?

im off my head on pain meds and can’t even think about this logically right now.

I can't believe this is actually a question. No decent man would even consider leaving his wife to go on holiday and leave her to go through this alone. What a selfish bastard. I'd be absolutely heartbroken if my husband even thought it but to actually say it to you. Nahhh sorry I'd be re thinking my marriage if he was my husband

Unless you would lose over 50% of the money, this shouldn't really be a question and I am at a loss to understand why your husband suggested this.

I did this holiday every year during my marriage. Just rebook ( pull the 12 year old out of school, you’ve got the excuse of the heart thing now) and go NOT IN AUGUST. I can’t imagine anything worse than really doing the Parks thing in August, I’ve been in August and as we only dabble due to going annually it’s bearable just but honestly you’ll regret your life choices trying to do it. Wrap around the October half term and you’ll have much more fun.

My DC and Ex with be there this August and DC is complaining bitterly about going, consider this a hand of god moment

Wow.. this is your Husband? Who you took vows for “in sickness and in health”.. I think this just shows what he really thinks of you and how little he cares.. how very sad 😔

Mental isn’t it.. I know some selfish guys, but this is next level. He really doesn’t like her from the sounds of it 😞

Out of curiosity asked DH, without specifying which parent it was in hospital. His immediate reaction was the holiday should be cancelled. Your husband needs to be told he is odd.

Tell your husband if he goes this will be the end of your marriage. Say it once and once only.

Ask the 20 year old (that's an adult)if he would consider staying to look after you in the event your DH decides not to. If they agree promise to make it up to them as soon as finances allow. Obviously claim on insurance so you have money.

Focus on recovery. Then divorce your uncaring husband - unless he comes to his senses fast. What a prick.

Your husband is a despicable piece of shit. Would your 12 year old still want to go if you weren't? Especially knowing you were recovering from surgery. I couldn't imagine enjoying myself knowing my mum was alone and unwell. If it were my spouse, I'd be too worried to go away, and, even if I did, I would have a crap time.

Can you find out for yourself what the situation is regarding postponing/cancelling the holiday and finding out what your options are? Clearly your husband is not reliable or honest enough to do this.

I would be interested to know if your 20 year old would agree to the suggestion by a pp and stay at home with you while your shitbag husband went with your 12 year old? And then you make it up to the 20 year old later.

I can't imagine your husband would actually take good care of you anyway. His attitude towards you when you are unwell and vulnerable is abhorrent, and is a glimpse into the future should you be diagnosed with cancer/alzheimers etc. I'd also be concerned about how he would behave if either of your children became so ill as well. I don't think I could remain married to him anymore tbh. You deserve so much better than this OP.

I’m so sorry you’re being treated this way by a man who is supposed to love you.
He doesn’t appear to care about you very much and now he turns out to be a liar too!
Take some time for yourself xx

Hopefully you will have travel insurance- contact them with hospital documentation regarding your illness. You should then be able to reschedule your holiday so all of you can go. You more than anyone will need a holiday after a serious illness. Your husband is being selfish. I don’t know how old your children are but nevertheless they should be supportive of you and wait until you’re ready to go on this much needed holiday.