Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

[Geoleo]

Does your husband have patience with you touching up your make up/putting in a few curls in your hair when you’re on holiday. Obviously in the morning we usually agree a time to leave the room so that’s less an issue. Although he does insist I do my hair / makeup in the bathroom and forbids putting on the light in the room which can be awkward when I need to look for items.

But if we go to the room for a freshen up he is completely on me and moaning if I decide I want to touch up my make up. Just saying “come on hurry up” “we’re wasting time” the entire time etc. Im definitely not putting on a full face just cleaning up lip liner/mascara or brushing my hair and reapplying deodorant. 10 mins at most. I don’t know his moaning has absolutely annoyed me. 10 mins either way should not make a difference to anything. Why can’t he just sit on his phone and not nag me for 10 mins. Is this normal?

i enjoy looking my best. I know not everyone cares for make up but I do

he nags non stop even if we have agreed I can have 10 mins.

Thanks for clarifying, as per other posters that wasn’t immediately clear to me when I read it. As I said, if she’s just wanting to freshen up after the day before heading out for the evening, or get changed between pool and heading out for an excursion, that’s completely reasonable and her husband is being a prat.

What on earth are you talking about, who said she returns to the room every two hours.

I asked the Op to clarify if she’s going back to the room in the evening to freshen up which most agree is reasonable or going back much more frequently which some of us would find a bit annoying. Other posters have queried the same. A pp has clarified. Thank you

Good grief.

@Sereine

what exactly is she holding up?

Dear me, some mumsnetters must really go out for dinner on holiday not looking or smelling at all great! 😷

I know right? the idea of using wet wipes when you have a paid hotel room to shower in is just ludicrous

Why bother paying for a hotel in the first place if you are going to act like you are camping?!

Yes. Predictably this thread has brought out the usual absolute baggage. JFC 🙄

Well apparently if your husband can’t be arsed waiting ten mins you’ve to take wet wipes and deodorant in your bag and get ready on the run so as not to inconvenience him in any way,

who knew so many submissive wives.

I don't think it is unreasonable to do the morning routine in the bathroom if others are sleeping- common courtesy not to have the main light on. It's easy to make sure necessary items are in the bathroom. If you need the blowdryer that is noisy- can you use something else to curl your hair e.g. heat tongs?

Re: touching up- as you describe it YANBU but is it really 10 min? How many times per day? Maybe there can be a compromise?

I also will quickly touch up make-up, hair on holiday when we happen to be in the room. This is literally 5 min. My partner is not bothered, and I don't think he would mind if it took longer, but everyone is different.

I think the answer is to never actually use the hotel room to save maximum time!

Just do your makeup in the lift, brush your hair in reception, spray deodorant whilst jogging to the restaurant for dinner, and if you need a shower, I'm sure there's a conveniently located public fountain somewhere. Or, just use the hotel pool en route to breakfast (dont forget to take a travel sponge with you).

In fact, why sit down for dinner at all? You could easily save 2 hours of time every day by putting your dinner in a napkin and eating it while speed walking to whatever is next on your exhausting list of regimented activities.

Much more sensible than expecting a grown adult to wait the 10 minutes they'd already agreed to. Heaven forbid anyone should endure the unimaginable hardship of waiting 10 entire minutes.

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No!! Some of that stuff would mean her self indulgently looking at herself in a mirror rather than gazing adoringly at her husband! She should just suck it up and go natural while on holiday - throw that silly face paint away, I’m sure her husband would be pleased

Quite right. The hotel should really remove all the mirrors from the rooms.

They're only encouraging women to indulge in dangerous levels of self-care instead of gazing adoringly at their husbands.

In fact, they should replace them with bold framed signs saying, "WOMEN: Have you considered hurrying up?"

He’s a twat. When we go on holiday, DP gets up and gets ready first, as he’s pretty quick, and then he gos out and gets a drink/reads a book somewhere and gives me space to get ready in my own time. Works for us.

Nothing worse than having a man hanging about while you’re trying to get ready!

I have to say that it's very rare to find a campsite without a good shower these days!