Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

[Geoleo]

Does your husband have patience with you touching up your make up/putting in a few curls in your hair when you’re on holiday. Obviously in the morning we usually agree a time to leave the room so that’s less an issue. Although he does insist I do my hair / makeup in the bathroom and forbids putting on the light in the room which can be awkward when I need to look for items.

But if we go to the room for a freshen up he is completely on me and moaning if I decide I want to touch up my make up. Just saying “come on hurry up” “we’re wasting time” the entire time etc. Im definitely not putting on a full face just cleaning up lip liner/mascara or brushing my hair and reapplying deodorant. 10 mins at most. I don’t know his moaning has absolutely annoyed me. 10 mins either way should not make a difference to anything. Why can’t he just sit on his phone and not nag me for 10 mins. Is this normal?

i enjoy looking my best. I know not everyone cares for make up but I do

he nags non stop even if we have agreed I can have 10 mins.

It’s not judgemental. And I have never said people shouldn’t do it, or even that I don’t (though I don’t as it happens - not for over a decade). Just that it’s not ‘pick me’ not to and that always wearing it coukd mean not being comfortable in your own skin.

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I never quoted you, I never tagged you, I never replied to a comment you made. If you don’t understand the basics of posting on the internet stop quoting me.

No one called you a pick me because you don’t wear makeup, the post was quite directly referencing the posters who are shitting all over a normal feminine activity that many women partake in, and doing so in order to position themselves as so much better, more cultured and secure. It’s fucking nonsense, the women who go out of their way to poke the OP about daring to brush her hair and put on a bit of lipstick and claim that makes her insecure, self obsessed, and unable to enjoy a holiday are misogynistic.

Didn’t quote me, you say?
Stop policing who can say what and where on a public forum. Especially when you are wrong about who you have engaged with and what you’ve said to them.

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Sorry, but 😂
Are you new to internet discussions? It doesn't work like that 😁

Oh absolutely honey, I have an opinion on women who judge other women on their appearance and their grooming. And I can assure you, it’s not a judgement you wish to read.

That’s fine, because I’m not judging women on their appearance. Not at all. Or ‘grooming’ whatevere that means to you - in my experience it hides a judgement. Women judge me as ‘not groomed’ which apparently is a negative, because I don’t wear make up. Whereas I couldn’t care less if anyone else wears some.

Yeah you did.

look you don’t wear make up, if you’ve hang ups about your looks, that’s not anyone here’s fault. Take that little piece of baggage and manage it elsewhere.

Separate hotel rooms you can then faff around, do your hair & makeup to your hearts content. Actually Separate countries or counties might be preferable

Can you indicate where? Because it would be odd if I judged someone for something I have no interest in. And I don’t have any notable hang ups abput my appearance thanks. Why would you think I do?
Both suggestions sound very much like projection to me. Maybe baggage for you to manage elsewhere?

@cardibach

you seem to think you are superior to other women so yes you are a pick me girl…why can’t other women be like you and be happy and carefree and easy going without slapping on ‘paint’ on their faces?! Why can’t they just be content in themselves and not hold up their husband from what he wants to do?! Pesky women and their silly slap, such a nuisance.

All those posts and only three by the OP

Not regimented, just so many things that I would rather be doing on holiday than sitting in the room while he faffs about. I don't go on holiday to sit in the room.

It read to me more like regular popping back to the room throughout the day rather than a before dinner shower/getting ready which if a quick touch up takes ten minutes, the evening getting ready would be at least an hour.

Huh? When we go back to the room, I collapse on the bed to get some zzz’s and DH is on at me to get up to go to dinner before places stop taking bookings/walk in’s. I do find it annoying, but on the other hand, ultimately, I’d probably be pissed to miss dinner. Fuck the lipliner, I’m more worried about the sleep dribble caked to my face as we race out the door.

the evening getting ready would be at least an hour

Disagree. I’ve done it in under 10mins on most occasions in order to get out the door (in preference of maximising my nanna nap😁).

You need me to tell you what you posted? Is there a back story here?

You can’t just brush your hair and put a nice dress on?

Do you wear make up? That’s changing your appearance. Do men do it?

It’s about being happy in your own skin without extra paint

Make up isn’t a necessary part of self respect. Not being able to go anywhere without it is a bit worrying

anyway, just for clarity, yes your comments are judgemental little jibes. And you sound far from a woman comfortable in her own skin. Becaude women comfortable in their own skin don’t feel the need to make little jibes to other women over their appearance.

I said similar on another thread recently - very rare you see women putting down other women who choose not to wear makeup or get tweakments etc. But plenty of snidey comments from women towards those that do. Weird.

You think? I find the opposite. Styled hair and makeup have been described as ‘basics’ here and people who don’t do that as lacking basic hygiene. Still don’t understand how not wearing make up is being pick me, but everything here seems a bit topsy turvy. Those quotations are out of context and not jibes by the way. But I’m out. Hiding the thread.

Ah I do love a run away and hide behind the sofa.😂

@HoppingPavlova

nice 🙄

I cant speak for other threads but im 99.9% certain no one has described styled hair and makeup as basic hygiene on here. That would be pretty wild.

There have however been multiple comments about make up wearers who want to have a 10 min touch up as being obsessive, lacking self esteem, different person, fake etc. But shhhh, we'll not talk about those.

Its also clear the "pick me" is nothing to do with not wearing makeup, I mean, if you wanna talk about out of context.....

But anyway, bye 👋 Maybe theres another make up thread where you can go and tell women they wear paint. Have fun!

No I’ve never seen that either, unless someone was saying that’s their basic hygiene. Which is very different to saying it’s everyone’s.

but I’ve seen so so many snide comments about women wearing make up. It clearly is something to do with the perception of attractiveness, hence the comment on men.

most women wear make up for them. Not men. Like wearing a nice outfit, or brushing your hair. Make up done right enhances our features, it is not paint. It is not to change our appearance. It is to enhance it.

I’ve good skin, I’m happy make up free, but I also love wearing make up. I know how to do it well, with good quality products, that enhances my features, flawless dewy skin with a hint of a flush, full lips, ( just lipstick close to my own lip tone) thick longer lashes, ( just with mascara) , brows filled in and tidied. I still looo like me, my face isn’t painted, but I look like a naturally flawless version of me.

and if that’s changing my appearance or painting my face, then cover me in paint and call me disguised. I’m all up for it. Does it mean I’m not comfortable in my own skin, of course not, that’s silly.

but I do think those who object and make snide comments, aren’t comfortable in their own skin they don’t perceive themselves as attractive and that’s the issue. If other women stopped wearing it they’d look less attractive and even the playing field.

Yeaaa you're partner can't stop you from doing ANYTHING.

"Forbid" ????? Jesus.

I would say 'fuck him', but you should fuck someone else instead and leave him in the past. It only gets worse. It starts small so you ignore your instincts and accept more and more and it's always worse and worse until you find yourself trapped. Don't take 10 years of it like I did.

This is going to be a drip feed

forbid !!! Holidays surely arnt regimented unless you’re going to miss a trip you’ve booked or something