Help protect children from gaming harms.

Take our survey

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think Taylor Swift is a big meanie for not releasing just 1 photo of her in her wedding dress?

158 replies

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:01

Before anyone says "maybe she just wants to keep her entire wedding - including dress - private"...

  1. She's made her whole career about her personal life

  2. Her fans are often young girls who idolise her. (I have 2 nieces age 10 and 12 who are really disappointed they have seen nothing).

  3. Said fans have made her a billionaire and essentially therefore paid for the huge wedding!

  4. It's been over 2 weeks since said wedding so plenty of time for her to have relaxed afterwards and then selected a single sodding photo to release

  5. It's not like she needs to sell the photos for money

I think it's quite mean of her tbh. It would be less bad if she TOLD these young fans either "you will see the dress in my forthcoming documentary" or "I've decided to keep it private". At lease then they would know.

Signed

A 43 year old woman who no longer believes in romantic love but remembers what it was like to be 10-12 years old and fascinated by weddings and wedding dresses.

OP posts:
ThereWeAreThensmileyface · 19/07/2026 21:09

Photography isn't just a point and shoot job I'm afraid.

The photographer will take photos and then has the after-event job of processing them before presenting them to the client.

This processing can take a considerable amount of time.
Of course, a few select prior peek look book images can be given as first glance - but ultimately at the end of the day its T&Ts perogative as to if and when they release that first image to the press & public.
Bottom line @GallopingConsumption - we will all have to wait, we are low on the list of their priorities ...

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 19/07/2026 21:10

It will come. Just be patient.

WillThingsEverBeFergaliciousAgain · 19/07/2026 21:17

She's made her whole career about her personal life

So? should she release a sex tape as well? Tell us if she gets piles? She has a right to privacy when she chooses.

Her fans are often young girls who idolise her. (I have 2 nieces age 10 and 12 who are really disappointed they have seen nothing).

They should learn they aren't entitled to see anything from pop stars.

Said fans have made her a billionaire and essentially therefore paid for the huge wedding!

Said fans have not donated to make her rich, they have bought stuff or attended gigs that they enjoyed, and they got what they paid for.

It's been over 2 weeks since said wedding so plenty of time for her to have relaxed
afterwards and then selected a single sodding photo to release.

Photos can take ages to edit, aside from the fact she might want to keep them private.

It's not like she needs to sell the photos for money

She doesn't need to release photos at all.

This parasocial shit with celebrities and influencers is disturbing honestly.

I dont even particularly like Taylor Swift and even I'm feeling claustrophobic at the amount of demands being placed on her a week or two after her wedding.

PollyBell · 19/07/2026 21:17

Good on her

dirtytiles · 19/07/2026 21:18

No it’s not mean.

plims · 19/07/2026 21:19

She doesn’t owe anyone a photograph. Unless you’re suggesting she shouldn’t have any privacy at all?

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

OP posts:
plims · 19/07/2026 21:24

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

It’s probably a good idea for 10 year olds to learn that even a very famous person is entitled to privacy, the same as any other person.

court18 · 19/07/2026 21:29

I agree op. All the rigmarole about the engagement photos and perfect proposal etc as well. Just one photo as styled as she likes would be so gratefully received by fans. She has encouraged fans on the journey with her, and the highs and lows. I think one photo would be the right thing to do.

dirtytiles · 19/07/2026 21:31

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

Why would a wedding dress photo prove a celeb does give a fuck?

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:33

@dirtytiles it wouldn't. But the absence of one does prove the opposite IMHO.

OP posts:
clearlyy · 19/07/2026 21:33

WillThingsEverBeFergaliciousAgain · 19/07/2026 21:17

She's made her whole career about her personal life

So? should she release a sex tape as well? Tell us if she gets piles? She has a right to privacy when she chooses.

Her fans are often young girls who idolise her. (I have 2 nieces age 10 and 12 who are really disappointed they have seen nothing).

They should learn they aren't entitled to see anything from pop stars.

Said fans have made her a billionaire and essentially therefore paid for the huge wedding!

Said fans have not donated to make her rich, they have bought stuff or attended gigs that they enjoyed, and they got what they paid for.

It's been over 2 weeks since said wedding so plenty of time for her to have relaxed
afterwards and then selected a single sodding photo to release.

Photos can take ages to edit, aside from the fact she might want to keep them private.

It's not like she needs to sell the photos for money

She doesn't need to release photos at all.

This parasocial shit with celebrities and influencers is disturbing honestly.

I dont even particularly like Taylor Swift and even I'm feeling claustrophobic at the amount of demands being placed on her a week or two after her wedding.

This. The parasocial relationship people have with celebrities is very fucking weird and nobody is entitled to see anything from anybody’s life.

duod · 19/07/2026 21:35

This is a hilarious take.

she can do what she wants. It would also be a good lesson for your nieces to learn that too and not be obliged to do something because of someone

Icecreamisthebest · 19/07/2026 21:38

I think she will release one, given she released engagement photos. And that her fans should be happy for her to focus on herself and her new husband right now

. She’s not being mean, she’s being normal. Everyone else needs to be normal too and get on with their own lives until the photo comes.

Whatevergoes2025 · 19/07/2026 21:39

She’ll be in a white floaty feminine dress, probably with some lace, definitely a train, a few flowers in her hair. He’ll be in a black suit and they’ll be surrounded by flowers/trees/pink magical vibe backdrop. She’ll look very pretty.

Brought to you courtesy of my imagination and not AI.

BIWI · 19/07/2026 21:39

Despite what you think @GallopingConsumption you, and your nieces and fans do not own Taylor Swift. She is quite within her rights to want to keep her wedding as private as she wants it to be.

DeterminedRat · 19/07/2026 21:43

I thought her fans were mainly in their late 20s. early 30s not little kids.

plims · 19/07/2026 21:46

DeterminedRat · 19/07/2026 21:43

I thought her fans were mainly in their late 20s. early 30s not little kids.

I suspect it’s the OP who is the fan rather than her “niece”

BennyHenny · 19/07/2026 21:48

You do realise she is a person first and a pop star second? The level of entitlement is super weird by the OP!!

Delphiniumandlupins · 19/07/2026 21:51

They're probably still on their honeymoon and not thinking about editing photos.

MrsPapillon · 19/07/2026 21:51

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

This is madness! I’ve been debating on another thread about this very topic. About how people seem to think they are entitled to the private lives of celebrities.

You should be teaching your nieces that famous people have the right to privacy and shouldn’t be forced to share their lives just to satisfy the nosiness of the public. And Taylor Swift doesn’t gaf about them because she doesn’t know they exist.

ZanyMaker · 19/07/2026 21:53

No doubt she will release a whole feature length film on the wedding before long…….no way will she keep it private - although of course it will be done in the guise of being for her fans and nothing at all to do with her being an attention-lover….

MayaPyjama · 19/07/2026 21:53

I suspect we will get a photo in time, but it took about two weeks before they shared the engagement photos, so they have form for sharing photos when they choose and not at the demand of others.

AFAIK (I don’t follow TS but my algorithms lean heavily that way) she hasn’t posted ANYTHING since the wedding, so it’s not like she’s moved on and is ignoring it happened.

I’ll be interested to see the photo, but it’s unhealthy to feel entitled to it. And having little girls dreaming about weddings like it’s the most important thing they will ever do is also unhealthy, so maybe she wants to make a point that this is not the most important thing in her life as her career is.

ilovesooty · 19/07/2026 21:54

GallopingConsumption · 19/07/2026 21:20

Well she's set up fans for expectation and disappointment by releasing photos of the proposal and then after the wedding just...nothing. That's not fair imho on your average young girl. Life is full of enough disappointments without learning at age 10 that your idol dgaf about you!

I don't see why she should release photos to please her fans.

hahabahbag · 19/07/2026 21:55

I suspect she will release pictures and footage with new music or some other promotional content, when she’s ready though