To feel upset by MILs message about separation

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I separated from DH 2 weeks ago, after 14 years together with 1 DD aged 4.

We got together when we were 18 and gradually grew apart, we parented well together but the intimacy had gone - we hadn’t had sex in almost 2 years (not for my lack of trying), we had tried marriage counselling etc but the crux of it was I couldn’t do it anymore. There were other issues, nothing inherently ‘bad’, but bad enough that I just couldn’t waste any more time in that marriage, and felt we’d tried as hard as we could but it had run its course.

He has moved back in with his parents, and one of the most upsetting parts is being the major villain in his families story - his mum was a second mum to me, and I messaged her to basically say I’m sorry I know this is a very emotional time, appreciate all you are doing for DD, but sorry it’s come to this, essentially.

I have had a reply -

’we will keep communicating about DD but that is all. I need time and space to support my son and granddaughter through this very difficult and emotional transitional period.’

Am I being sensitive atm? That’s really fucked me off - that’s my daughter, I’m not doing it to hurt her, and we are coparenting well currently. I have just replied ‘thank you’, but AIBU to be a bit pissed off with that?

Just scrolled back and seen that dd is 4. And they got together as teenagers. She's given it her best shot

And I'm shocked at how many people think the message is fine. There's going to be some ongoing connection through the child, so amicable all round is best.

Instead, MIL has childishly given in to her emotions with that text, for the short term joy of putting the boot in.

But MIL can have a relationship with her grandchild via her son, OP doesn't need to be involved at all.

Lets hope for her sake he's an involved dad and dutiful son and facilitates that, especially once he moves on and finds a new partner etc.