Leaving house to one child and not the other?

[BabyBump1212]

Do you think this is fair? I guess in exceptional circumstances,for example if a child was no contact then maybe, but if both children were close to said parent,no falling out etc. How would you feel about this?

I am the carer for DH with dementia. I know lots of carers looking after elderly parents. Often giving up jobs to do so and doing most of the 24/7 work which is hard. under these circumstances, it is appropriate that one daughter (and it usually is a daughter), is properly reflected in the will. There is a sad pattern in dementia of one sibling doing all the work and then at the end of life, the others having a lot to say.

You can certainly tell the posters whose parents don't have anything for them to inherit - and as for the ones whose parents left their sibling a ton more than they were left, why on earth would you be fine with that? Unless you're already very well off of course......

OP it's shit, and it's shitter still that your husband is still running around after them. Are you sure there isn't a lump sum of cash intended for him though?

The house is signed over to the golden child and the parent is paying nominal rent.

So this is a tax dodge?

That didn't occur to me 😔

It’s an everything dodge. Is your DP a trustee of the will or an attorney on the LPA? If so he will be guilty by association and the Office of the Public Guardian and HMRC will take a very dim view of this when they’re involved in the future.

It’s malicious or stupid. Maybe a bit of both. Presumably they have signed over the house to avoid inheritance tax or the golden child loosing the house due to care home fees. That’s deprivation of assets and is illegal. It shows they have prioritised protecting golden child inheritance over giving anything to the other sibling. When the die the golden child will inherit, the other left with nothing will resent their sibling and believe their parents never loved them, causing a huge family rift that will last forever but the cowardly parents would not have to witness or endure because they are dead. People who do this happily to their own children really don’t deserve to have any.

So, hypothetically, given that we know the OPDP won’t, what should the slighted child say to the parent who did this to them?

And what should they say hypothetically to the inheriting sibling?

Nothing has ever been said to the left out child re attorney etc.

So they may be a trustee but they’re not an attorney otherwise there would have been paperwork to sign. That’s a bit better.

As far as I know, nothing has been signed.

Hopefully, then, you both won’t be dragged into the shitshow when it eventually happens.

Yes of course you love them equally and in an ideal world want to treat them equally.
However if my dd had the most incredible life and my ds was scrimping to buy a grotty 1 bed flat, I would definitely put feelers out to see how my dd felt about it. I am the dd in this situation and I am sympathetic to my mum’s worry for my brother, I know if she leaves it to him that has zero to do with her loving me any less.