Should I apologise to this mum?

[Cringecringecringecringe]

I’ve recently had the scan to find out that I’m having a girl and to say I’m thrilled is an understatement as I desperately wanted a girl and honestly would have kept going until I got one.

I was talking to a Mum at my gym before the class started who I was sure also had a daughter. She asked me if I knew what I was having and I told her I was having a girl and in my excitement I did get a bit carried away in my enthusiasm about having a girl rather than a boy.

The mum didn’t say much in reply and then the class started so I didn’t think much of it until I was in the cafe after and saw her with her child who is definitely a boy.

I know feel super awkward about it as I think I might have come across a bit OTT about having a girl and I’m a bit worried it might have come across as a bit smug to a boy mum and like I was rubbing her face in it which definitely wasn’t my intention

I was lying in bed replaying the conversation and i just keep cringing. I’m wondering if I need to apologize to her tomorrow or would it make it worse ??

There is quite a bit social side to my gym with lots of activities for mums and little ones which I know this Mum is very involved in so I really don’t want to get off on the wrong foot.

Does anyone have any advice ?

How strange...She might be perfectly happy to have a boy and may have found your over excitement odd?

My husbands is way closer to his mum than his sister

When you see how many people are happier or willing to have a boy rather than a girl..

Assuming you are "rubbing her face in it" because you will have a girl is on another level😂

She won’t think you are smug, she will think you are ridiculous. Most people don’t care what you are having, she was probably just being polite. Why exactly do you think girls are better than boys. Genuinely don’t understand the mindset.

Yeh she probably thinks you are a nob. Can’t change it though!

A lot of the replies on this thread are FAR weirder than the OP. The woman made a mild social faux pas and has the presence of mind to realise it may not have landed well, yet the response of some posters is to start calling her names like silly playground bullies 🫠 Unbelievable.

You’re fine OP - we all say things we regret sometimes and I’m sure those berating you aren’t exactly flawless humans themselves. No need to apologise and risk further awkwardness - just chalk it up to experience, move on and pick a more neutral topic with her next time. Congrats on your pregnancy 💐

'a bit smug to a boy mum and like I was rubbing her face in it which definitely wasn’t my intention'

You do realise that some people can be absolutely delighted that they're having a boy, not a girl. I certainly was. So you know...there's that. 🤨

Also when did this become a thing, historically wasn’t it a boy everyone wanted.

You sound just as ridiculous as the OP.

She probably thinks you are an idiot

Dont say anything more.Im a boy mum and if someone was ecstatic about having a girl I wouldn't give a shit.

I'm a boy mum and I wouldn't be bothered. I would have liked one of each but I'm just happy I have my two sons (after going through IVF).

I would be a bit amused if you were OTT but I wouldn't be offended or jealous.

I would not mention it for now, but just try to redeem yourself by acting nice and normal ;-) in front of her going forward.
Hopefully you can get to know her better over time, and then once you’re feeling closer to her, you could always explain it then, in the context of “OMG I’m sorry I behaved like a weirdo when I met you… it was because I thought you had a girl as well, and I’m so sorry I seemed like I was implying it would be better to have a girl - I was a bit doolally with my pregnancy news”..

Fair play Op
8 pages of frothing for barely a couple of posts
cracking return on investment

My mother was also obsessed with having a girl. She didn’t have another child because she got her girl first time. All I heard growing up was how daughters were best because daughters stay close to their family. We don’t speak now I’m an adult and we’re much closer to my in-laws.

I have one of each and boys are way better, so she'll have the last (smug) laugh 😬😬😬😬😁

I wouldn’t apologise; it would just make it worse if she did take offence. To be honest I wouldn’t have given it a second thought and have 2 boys. Never had any desire for a girl at all, but I appreciate it’s important to some people. I would just have thought you were someone who had a strong preference. It’s really not that unusual.

You are very strange and I would give you a very wide berth.

I think it's really weird that you are thinking about this. It actually makes me think that you are smug that you are having a girl over a boy, and that girls are better for some strange reason??

Meh. I think on balance people (especially men - just look at their reactions on those gender reveal posts) want boys. However we were thrilled to be having a girl after three boys (not all mine), but didn’t go on about it. Unless you were making direct negative comments about boys then forget it.

Why do you think that all boy mums are disappointed and desperate to have girls? After being a mum for 22 yrs I think if I’d been handed a baby girl all those years ago, knowing what I know now, I’d have handed her straight back.

Having a girl is no walk in the park, I have two nieces and I’m one of three girls, they are so much more trouble than boys.

Like other posters have pointed out, she probably thought that you were as mad as a box of frogs.

I doubt she cares, having a healthy child is a blessing.

Not all females are close to their mums. I'm certainly not! My sons are closer to me than their dads. My dp is closer to his mum than his dsis. Don't fall for that stereotype!