Should I apologise to this mum?

[Cringecringecringecringe]

I’ve recently had the scan to find out that I’m having a girl and to say I’m thrilled is an understatement as I desperately wanted a girl and honestly would have kept going until I got one.

I was talking to a Mum at my gym before the class started who I was sure also had a daughter. She asked me if I knew what I was having and I told her I was having a girl and in my excitement I did get a bit carried away in my enthusiasm about having a girl rather than a boy.

The mum didn’t say much in reply and then the class started so I didn’t think much of it until I was in the cafe after and saw her with her child who is definitely a boy.

I know feel super awkward about it as I think I might have come across a bit OTT about having a girl and I’m a bit worried it might have come across as a bit smug to a boy mum and like I was rubbing her face in it which definitely wasn’t my intention

I was lying in bed replaying the conversation and i just keep cringing. I’m wondering if I need to apologize to her tomorrow or would it make it worse ??

There is quite a bit social side to my gym with lots of activities for mums and little ones which I know this Mum is very involved in so I really don’t want to get off on the wrong foot.

Does anyone have any advice ?

There’s nothing wrong with being excited to be having a girl- and there’s nothing wrong with being a boy mum

She’ll just think you’re very strange and give you a wide birth! Your views are concerning and worrying as you’re about to become parent

I was only able to have 1 child. I would've loved a girl if I'd had a 2nd but I also would've loved another boy too.

This

This reminds me of mil sil. She had 2 boys, a girl then another boy. I had a boy then a girl. With my 3rd when I told her I was having a boy she pulled a "uggh" face (as in disappointment). My 4th was a boy too. I really don't mind I've got 3 sons because my daughter is such hard work

Sent them packing? God alone knows. A totally unhinged comment. The mind boggles! 🤔

It actually shocks me that there are people out there like the OP. I wonder if this type of attitude has a lasting impact on the boys these type of woman raise..

no wonder there is a issue with violence against women and girls.

Don’t apologise, double down and be more mad next time

Well I have no reason to lie on the internet, and my son is perfect, I don't want a daughter any more than I specifically wanted a son. I only just about wanted a child and it was far more important to me that my child was clever and didn't inherit my dyspraxia. I didn't get a choice about those things either.

My son is closer to his paternal grandparents, but I'm also not the sort of person who'll love preciously measuring out closeness if I have any grandchildren. I'll just enjoy the time spent with them and help however I can.

My only slight anxiety about sex was that if I had a girl who was stereotypically girly, that I'd struggle with helping her with that, because I'm not. But similarly I worried that if I get a sports mad boy that I'd be stuck on the edge of boring football.

But you know what? When my son bursts into the room and tells me to come and dance NOW because Baby Shark is on with all the enthusiasm of a 2am drunk whose fave song hit the club, I'm right there. I never thought I'd find it so easy to love the things your child loves.