“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

[Penelopefly]

I’m away with my boyfriend at the weekend. In the course of messaging about our respective days, I’ve mentioned I am starting to pack. He said ‘remember some nice lingerie with all the trimmings’. I queried what trimmings meant - he clarified stockings and suspenders.

I feel like a piece of meat!

I seem to be unusual in not taking exception to his wording. What I have an issue with is him not being happy enough with OP’s naked body. In my friendship group sexy lingerie is seen as a bit of spice to rekindle (is that the word I mean?) interest. Added spice iyswim.

Your boyfriend sees you as a sexual being, poor you! Better get that notion crushed straight off.

The 1980s called. They want Bernard Manning back. 🤢

Where did you find this dinosaur? I presume he's over 50?

OP, does he want you to have a beard?

I’m my own women means I’ll not do something I don’t want to, to please a man. However the amount of this vile etc is ridiculous. He didn’t tell her, he asked her.

I think he's learning that quite quickly.

Yes that’s where my mind went.

If someone gave me a shopping list of sexy stuff to bring without a reciprocal list of turn ons, Id be feeling like a mail order girlfriend. It would bring on a heave of ‘oh, now I have to go do this”. Fuck no, life’s too short.

He just told you to bring lingerie, specifically with garter belt and stockings like you're his weekend gf order.

Want fries with that, asshole?

I wouldn't be going.

I think a joint of meat would be more fun.

Can I ask if this is a particularly British attitude to sex and lingerie? I am not British. I adore wearing lingerie that makes me look and feel wonderful and I know the sort of that thing that suits me and put time and effort into sourcing the right thing. My boyfriend is also not British. Maybe relevant as I am asking about cultural things that we are Latin American. His pleasure in my body/lingerie is lovely and definitely turns me on to see it, but he would love me in anything! He also loves the fact that I am an independent woman, have outspoken views, a high powered career etc I get that everyone is different and this request should be seen in the context of the whole relationship though.

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

Portnoys liver?

No this is simply just a mumsnet view, no one I know in real life wouldn’t react this way including my 80yo grandmother

Yuck.

Pass the smelling salts quick, this is Mumsnet FFS. 😬

Honestly, this. It's like a parallel universe here sometimes.

I don't know what this says about me, but my partner saying this to me would probably get me going a bit!

I'm not British. But I don't appreciate a man telling me to wear something like he's ordering a damn burger with ketchup at MickeyDees.

I'm neutral on this one with no strong opinion. It did cross my mind if the OP would have felt better if he'd said bring your warm undies it's still cold at night 😂

Indeed 😂

Sorry, but this comment made me giggle - a 'Titanic painting' moment with couple of strategically placed Yorkshire puds & a parsnip for when he comes in 'brandishing the roses & champagne'..... have you been together long? If so, then just tell him how it made you feel - if not long, & you think he is worth it - again have that conversation - is he young or old enough to think that this was romantic / appropriate? (BTW - I have nothing against stockings etc, but wouldn't take kindly to being told to wear them).
Oooh, now I want to suggest those bandage type surgical stockings & Charlie Chaplin suspenders..... (& I also fancy some roast potatoes). Have a good weekend, however it works out, & please update?? x

I personally wouldn't bad an eyelid . Where has sense of humor gone .No wonder so many marriages break up .

Why did you say saggy?

Some people, men AND women, do have saggy bodies.
Fact.