To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

Why is it an issue for you? Is she abusing him?

He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

So why were they both looking for a hook up on a dating site?

Older ladies now a thing or two! 😀

Know not now!!!

No and no. It’s just the shock of the age gap.

Yes but he’s been seeing her for a few months and they go on dates like hiking and trips away.

It's isn't that uncommon tbh.

Because thats exactly what dating sites are for, surely?

Not a problem then as long as they both know they’re just friends and nothing more.

He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

I don't find anything shocking in that at all. You do know that people can also date and also not have an 'intimate' relationship? And even if they do, provided no one is being abused, control or hurt then it's a non-issue isn't it? Sounds like they are just enjoying spending time with each other on a light-hearted basis.

But they’re not actually dating or have I read it wrong?

I have never seen this and seen a lot of things. Yes, I know some guys go for older women but the age gap is very large.

They are dating.

I think they are just friends and he said he was ‘’seeing’’ her just for effect. He ‘sees’her because he gets company without the pressure of having to offer more in a relationship (as women his age or younger might want children etc).

Really?? I’d have thought it wasn’t common at all ! Honestly I think it’s absolutely gross. I’d think it was weird too, OP, but I probably wouldn’t start a thread about it. Might have a little gossip with another friend who didn’t know him though, just to process my thoughts. Yes, none of your business blah blah blah but I’d be taken aback as well, honestly

He is happy?

Ahh ok.

As long as neither of them suddenly wants more, it shouldn’t be a problem.

I would be shocked too op, I mean good for them, but i know lots of men in their 30s and lots of women in their 60s and I can't imagine any of them getting together.

I'm guessing they both have their age range set on the app for exactly this kind of age gap

Some men like much older women (Wayne Rooney anyone?) Some older women still have a raging libido and a lot of men their own age can't keep up. Cheers to them both, hope they're at it like rabbits on the daily.

Without going into details, they’ve got to know each other very well in bed. My friend doesn’t do platonic stuff. He lit up like a Christmas tree when I asked him how it was in bed.

Exactly. It just caught me off guard. To be fair she is a beautiful lady but still clear she’s in her 60s.

Good for them then!

Reverse the genders and it would be virtually paedophilia in the world of mumsnet 🤣

Too much of a gap. It’s half your age plus 7 years is the minimum.

Unfortunately my husband pointed out that even with the above it would mean I could date a bloke in his mid nineties 🤮🤮🤮