To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

Oh calm down please, have you read some of the things on here from women? They would make a sailor blush.

No, my friend is a very high earner and generous. She is very comfortable so this has nothing to do with money.

Exactly, it is a bit shocking. My friend gets a lot of attention from women his own age and especially younger. But he’s really into this lady.

Men don't "go for" older women or younger women.

Generally speaking, men don't factor age into dating. So if a man meets a 60 year old he likes, or a 25 year old he likes, it's all the same.

Men who are dating and who try to filter out potential partners based on age are going to find themselves permanently single, so they generally go for any age.

I thought this was all common knowledge.

Just because a man receives a lot of attention from women doesn't mean those women want to date him. That's just called being friendly. It's not as if women want a relationship with every man that they're friendly with.

This thread is, indeed nauseating, or some of the replies are.
What sickens the 🤮most? is it the thought of her old and saggy body? That's what I'm seeing, disgust for an older body.

I see that old trope for half your age + 7 works for the woman, though. Which is nice.

I'm nearly 60, I've got friends who have FWB much younger. Many men, or rather people want regular sex, without any complications, the exact scenario that's going on here. My post was in answer to posters who are incredulous that this is a thing, it's very much a thing. As I said, the fact that an accidental pregnancy can't happen, is a bonus, especially if they've previously thought they were just hooking up with a woman in her 20/early 30s and the next thing, she's pregnant.

Sixty-seven year old here, and I know a 37 man who has been asking me out for over a year. I’m 9 years older than his mum.

He says the age gap doesn’t matter, but why the fuck would anyone want to shag someone 30 years their senior? I can’t get my head round it. He works hard, is intelligent and funny, over 6ft and looks great.

I am male and used to have a much older (>30 yrs older) female friend. It was purely a friendship, nothing romantic or sexy whatsoever. She was single and had no family. We bonded over religion, culture and travel interests.

She was rather eccentric - intensely private - and seemed a bit stand offish at first, certainly it seemed that she was not widely liked and had a reputation for being blunt. But I found that, if you gave her a chance and got past this first image, you discovered a very intelligent, cultured and sensitive lady, with a great sense of humour. She didn't share much about herself, but I just accepted that and took her as she was.

I got on well with her and enjoyed her company and listening to her thoughts. We did things together that none of my other friends would have been remotely interested in - going to lectures, religious stuff, lunches etc.

Later, when I had children, she was always very kind and generous to them. She loved to meet them and see holiday photos etc. I saw much less of her during covid, of course. That really shook her and she didn't like to be around people, she was quite paranoid about health - always dressed for an arctic expedition, regardless of the weather.

I had hoped to resume our friendship after covid, but things didn't return to the way it was. She would still reply to emails and things, but would never agree to meet or do things. The last time I asked her to do something together, she simply said she wasn't available. I began to wonder if I had upset her somehow.

Next thing, somebody told me she had died. I was shocked, but realised that this Is what happened and why she wouldn't (couldn't) meet - she had been ill / dying and just hadn't said anything, which was typical of her really, private to the very last.

I managed to go to her funeral which was surprisingly packed. I learned so much about her, she had been a primary school teacher. She had a brother. There was a photo of her as a little girl.

Sorry this adds nothing to the thread, but I found I was enjoying writing about her. I miss her.

Go on shagger. Love to see a woman cradle snatch for a change.

And why aren't you interested?!

I love it when people on MN say this 🤣🤣 of course it’s uncommon!

To be honest I’m very happy being single. I have a friend with batteries!

That's a really big age gap. Clearly, he's not doing it because he thinks older women are easy as he already has enough attention, so I assume he has some kind of fetish or mother issues if he's deliberately looking at that age group.

But he does, I’ve known him for years and he’s had more women in bed than hot meals. Women break all the ‘rules’ for him.

I was on a plane once. Next to a man in his twenties and woman appearing to be in her 60s. She was offering him werthers as they took off, he had a racing driver book telling her about it excitedly. Genuinely seemed like mother and son, I know it was presumptuous but she was also dressed in a certain way… short perm hairdo, lady-like clasp handbag, you get my drift. Well, reader, they only started snogging after take off!! Taken aback indeed. Though my next thought was good for you love! I do wonder if they kind of got off on it in a weird way, hamming up the mother son act and then shocking people. It takes all sorts 🤣

Aye, sure. It is extremely rare for men to have a lot of different sexual partners. Usually when men tell you this, they are completely full of shit.

Sorry but what utter bs. Perhaps you’re seeing the absolute bottom of the dating pool where some guys cast a very wide net but lots of men will be selective regarding age and other parameters.

I don't doubt that you would know, obviously.

I also wouldn't be surprised if he kept it quiet if she were to be compensating him financially for his time.

Either way it doesn't matter. He clearly enjoys spending time with her and is happy for the arrangement to continue.

True for most guys but my friend ain’t an average guy. I’ve seen and heard plenty over the years when we flat shared, went on holiday etc.

My friend earns over 180K so not sure he needs compensated 😂

Absolutely gross that two consenting adults enjoy each other’s company?

You’re weird.

Wow can I have his number for my mum? Or is 65 too young 😭

I'm a 37 year old woman and fancy several actresses in their 50s/60s. People really can't seem to get their heads around someone finding an older woman attractive, but we do exist!