To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

Why is there no intention of it developing into anything more if they go on hiking trips and trips away? Good on the woman for bagging a younger guy! And it’s refreshing to see that not all late 30s men want to date women in their early 20s, so good on him too

I wondered how long it would be before someone spouted that half your age plus 7 bollocks 🙄

I think it's a bit disrespectful of him to tell you all about their sex life. Is nothing private anymore? I'd be seriously pissed off if I had a younger boyfriend who then blabbed to his friend about what we got up to in private.
However, if they are both enjoying each other's company and there's no deceit involved, then there's nothing newsworthy about an age gap relationship of this nature.

They're both adults. I guess I would be a bit surprised if a mate who only dated younger people was dating someone 20 plus years older, but I'd just be happy for them.

Its more common with an older man and when its the woman older it seems more shocking! Which I don't think is fair!!

One of my neighbours must be in her early 60s and uses Tinder and says she hooks up with a lot of guys in their 20s. Some of which are fairly regular hook ups now. She says she gets loads of messages.

Hmmm interesting, I'm 46 and my boyfriend is 32 (i have been a bit worried about the gap) but by your logic I'm ok??!

I hope you told him he looks good for his age 😄

Well Madonna's 67 and all her boyfriends have been a lot younger

Yes it is shocking - it’s a 29yr age gap! I would be said if my daughter was dating a man of that age at 36.

True but there may be other incentives involved for the bf?

He said they’re both clear that it’s just fun. She’s divorced and not interested in anything long term.

Yeah I’d also find this shocking as I would if the genders were reversed, I find big age gaps, nearly 3o years in this case really icky, different life stages.

No they haven’t. Madonna has been single for a very long time, It’s well known the boyfriends are just pretend to shock. Madonna goes home, cares for her kids and is nothing like the public shocking image she puts out there,

It sounds like two clear-communicating and consenting adults are getting what they want.

What’s the difference between that and just being friends? Sex?

I will never meet this woman. She has no interest in meeting me or any of his friends. She is very clear it’s just fun.

Yes, lots of it apparently.

Not surprised. As an older woman , the sexual urge is there but most men in their 60s do slow down a bit . And anything older than definitely. So if I could find a 37 year old that I had sexual chemistry with and had a good time socially , why not ? As a divorced woman she's unlikely to want to marry , mix finances or live together . Sounds perfect . And as for one person wanting more , that can happen in any relationship.

Well I’m 60 and honestly couldn’t shag anyone young enough to be my son. It’s very icky

"As a divorced woman she's unlikely to want to marry"

I thought divorced people were in general very keen to re-marry?

Exactly this. I've mentioned madonna & Kylie Minogue before when considering older women & younger men. If she is anything like them he may not be able to keep up with her 💃😂

Those are famous and multi-millionaires.

How would you feel if it was the other way round, I,e, woman aged 37 with a man in his 60s. Happens all the time in celebrity circles

That is a big age gap tbh but that’s up to them.

But it might develop and they could be very happy together. IRL I have a friend similar age to me. Her eldest son is roughly 36, we are both low 50s and her sons partner, so her DIL, is 65 so a 29 year age gap. He is younger than some of his partners children but they seem very happy together. over 6 years now. It just depends on personalities.