To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

[darksideofthetoon]

Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

About half of divorced people never remarry.

Interestingly, divorce men are much more likely to remarry than women 🤔

Well at least he's still alive after the experience

(Ie you havnt had such a good time with him that he's passed on)

Very similar ages to me and my eldest DC. I like a lot of their friends but can't imagine any sort of romantic or sexual relationship. It's more usual an older man with younger woman but two people finding happiness together sounds great.

What a foul thing to say, John.

It was meant in the sense that he might have been worn out possibly to the point of expiration by the experience............

Ewwww yeah thats weird

@darksideofthetoon some of thsze replies are wild!

37 and 66 😲

That's a serious age gap...

Evidence then? Someone else on here has questioned you too. Maybe statistics rather than just you randomly saying something with no back up?!

A lot of people are going to get all morally superior and pretend there's absolutely nothing to see here but yes OP it is quite unusual. Nothing wrong with it but I'd be a bit surprised too.

That's a made up rule.

I'd say, just go with the flow. If it works for you for a short while or longer then why put arbitrary restrictions on it.

Yeh I’m with you. It’s weird.

Why on earth were you asking "how it was in bed"?

Quite! I thought the statistics were that divorced women are very much in the lowest percentage for remarriage - but very true about men! It's so easy for people to spout absolute garbage on here and then get cross when others 'dare' to question it, despite having showed no evidence when they made their initial assertion. If you're going to assert a 'fact' then show your basis otherwise you're just a blowhard. I got accused of being anecdotal when the person who made the comment couldn't be arsed to back up their erroneous assumption with facts.

I know, that’s why I say I’m shocked.

Of course there’s nothing wrong and two consenting adults and all that. I was surprised a woman in her 60s would be interested in a guy in his 30s. We so often hear this about older men and younger women.

Im the same age as your friend and absolutely wouldn't look twice at a 66 year old i would see them as more a dad then a romantic relationship

Because my friend is a very sexual guy and we talk about this stuff. I would never ask if it was a serious relationship or had a chance of that. I was curious to know as that’s what’s drawn him in.

That's what I was thinking. It doesn't bother me either way, but the responses would be very different and people would be calling him a 'creep' and a 'dirty old man'.

I’m not sure what you are protesting about. He’s an adult, she’s an adult. It doesn’t sound like she wants to start hanging out with you all so let it be. Why do some people feel that others need rescuing all the time?

Yuck. And now you're talking about it with us.
The men on here.

You'll get lots of people playing devil's advocate on here, I think some are actively trying to cause argument, but I get you OP and it is a bit surprising when it comes about.

I have been in a couple of age gap relationships myself (just happened that way, I did not intentionally seek them out) where I have been both the younger and the older party.....

But that said, when an ex just three years older than me started seeing a woman nearly 30 years his senior I was shocked and also a tad offended (she was the one directly after me). I wondered if maybe I looked old and that's why he liked me! (daft looking at it now, but it's where my mind went!). In my mind he was extremely good looking (I was TOTALLY punching with him) and I could not understand why he wanted to be with someone older than his own mother 🤷

I moved on and gave up caring after a while lol

They are both well into adulthood, and are happy with how things are between them. So who cares

It sounds like an arrangement that works for both of them.

I really wouldn't be surprised if she is paying for all of the meals/trips etc though.

She is likely compensating him for his time with firm no-strings.

It's more common than people realise.

It even happened on The Archers fairly recently so it can't be that unusual! 😂

I take it he's not looking to get a girlfriend, though? he would be unreasonable if he entered into a relationship and kept this lady on the side, obviously.

This "rule" is just some made-up nonsense.

I’d be surprised too. I find it weird when people date someone old/ young enough to be their parent/child.

What is the problem?They are both footloose and fancy free.
She is a cougar which is quite popular nowadays. Think Joan Collins among others. If one was married it would be wrong ,but as long as they are happy it is only their business. So many judgemental people on Mumset. Too many holier than thou opinions!