To think the daily routine is impossible. Disgusting house

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I want help! People's tips. I don't understand how people manage. I live in a fairly large old house.

This is my weekday routine

7am wake
7.30 - 8.30 getting kids ready for school (primary)
8.30 - 9.30 rush to office or back home to wfh.
9.30 - 5 work my arse off. Back to back meetings
5.30 pick up kids from after school
6 - 7 dinner
7 - 8 bath, bed
8 - 9 constantly put kids back to bed. Feel like tearing my hair out
9 - 9.30 basic tidy, dishwasher, check uniforms
9.30 - 10.30 try to do bits but in all honesty drink a wine and watch telly

My house is disgusting. I mean real mess. - my bathrooms are gross, dust everywhere. Im sprinting to stay still. Just about keep the show on the road but dusting, hoovering, proper cleans so hard to do

At the weekend, i do what i can. But all boys - primary school - and theyre so hyper. If I dont take them out they're out of control

What are other women doing? I dont know how womens homes look normal when they have young kids and work FT. My house is bad enough so id be embarrassed to let somone pop round. No parents. Husband MIA.

Practical tips? I feel like im missing something.

H and I sleep separately. Last few months I just cannot fall asleep next to him. If a toe touches me I feel uncomfortable. That sounds dramatic but my body is having such a strong reaction to him!

He's in the main/our bedroom with the ensuite. Im in the box room and use family bathroom. His ensuite is disgusting. He hasnt cleaned a bathroom in his life and he isnt starting now. I always used to clean it but havent for weeks. But i have to right? I just hate cleaning his shitty toilet. It makes me heave and even more resentful. But he will not clean it. Hell would freeze over. So i gotta do it. I never use it so feels unfair but no option i guess.

Thanks for all the advice. Ill get some citric acid. And im goung to call GP about HRT.

Wrap kitchen roll around taps etc and soak with white vinegar. Leave for a few hours. It'll dissolve the limescale.

Do you need to though?
If only he is using it, then personally I'd just pretend it's doesn't exist. I'd rather have to spend hours cleaning it when he moves out than constantly spending time cleaning up after him.

You absolutely, definitely do NOT need to clean his filthy toilet!!!!!!!

If it bothered him, he WOULD do it. It doesn’t matter that he hasn’t cleaned a toilet in his life. It isn’t rocket science. And presumably he knows how to google or watch YouTube…

Oh OP. You’re trying to fix too much stuff, too quickly and against the backdrop of trying to get divorced.

Kindly, you need to be much easier on yourself. You’re burning through too much energy- physical, mental and emotional.

All you need to focus on right now is divorcing your prick of a husband. Everything else can come later. Have you any idea what custody arrangements may look like post separation? Any chance of your exDH splitting custody in any meaningful way (and would you be comfortable with that?)

A dirty house while you try and navigate your way through a difficult period of you life is totally acceptable. You can think about losing weight in the future when you’re in a better position. You’re looking all around you and seeing failures everywhere and piling pressure on yourself to fix it all now. It doesn’t have to be this way.

You really don't need to clean his toilet. Leave him to his filth and focus on yourself and the kids.

If you work full time and have young kids you need a cleaner 🤷‍♀️ there isn’t enough hours in the day otherwise.

I always worked 30 hours when dd was younger so I had a day in the week to try and catch up when dd was at school.

Its beginning to smell 😷

Spray some air freshener through the door ...

And open the door 2 inches and throw in one of those gel air freshener thingies…

Get a cleaner because you are working full time.

Never bathed my kids dsily shower twice a week and while they sre in shower or not use that time ?

i csn see why you want rid if husband

can you pull s sickie and hsve. Big clesn / clearout - including husband and then get cleaner one a month ?