Do i dress like an old lady?

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Do I dress like an old lady? I’m 42 and yes I’m aware I need a new bra and I have a fitting for one next week

She's being a bitch !
Friends don't say anything like that !
I think it's a nice simple dress and it would be hard to age anyone wearing it !

My 72 your old MIL wouldn’t be bothered about showing her bra straps. They’re hardly offensive, just a strip of elastic.

Well considering how unpleasant your thread is to older women do you think you actually deserve " nice " replies?

No. No ‘old lady’ vibes in that photo. The old (ish - 80+) ladies I know all wear the same sort of clothes. Seasalt/ white stuff dresses, fat face cross body bags and brightly coloured skechers. A million miles away from my nana’s generation, who looked like a cross between Barbara Woodhouse and Hyacinth Bucket.

It's a basic casual dress, nothing special as such but you are wearing bracelets, have a nice polish on your feet and colour seems to go well with your colouring from what I can see.

It doesn't fit into the so-called "old lady" category. It's just a summer dress.

Add a fun bag and a hat if you are worried and want to jazz it up.

real friends do give their opinion when they are being asked.

No one is a true friend when they claim something is "lovely" when they think it's bad.

The dress is dull AF and makes you look dumpy round the mid-section.

I’m another old lady who resents the insinuation that because I’m over 60 I can’t dress nicely or stylishly. Why is casual ageism so acceptable. All you younger women will be my age at some point so you should be helping to get rid of the dreadful stereotypes around older women .
The dress isn’t particularly flattering . It’s ok but you could probably get something much nicer

The dress is okay for any age, but it does nothing for you at all

"old lady" is a style (or lack of), same as "mumsy" is a style, or "frumpy"

Not really related to age itself 😂
and people know exactly what you mean

The dress is functional. A bit dull. I’m mid 50s and wouldn’t have picked it up in the shop. I don’t think it’s anything to do with age. You look ok in it, but I’d say it’s an inoffensive dress. I’ve got big boobs and find I always look better in a structured dress.

Nothing to do with age. That cool colour is wrong for you. Try it in a warm shade.

Harsh.

It’s a boring dress for someone of any age

Well I am 71 and don't like pastels. We are all different.

It's a perfectly fine dress and you look nice.

I don’t think it’s “old lady” but I’m not sure the style or colour is doing much for you. Lots of grey around at the moment but I’ve yet to see anyone on whom it’s a flattering colour.

I wear exclusively Toast these days. My closest friend tells me I dress like an extra from ‘Deliverance’ and makes banjo noises when I enter the room. At lease she’s honest!

You look beautiful, ignore your mean friends, the dress looks great.

I think you look cool and summery
l would team it with some espadrilles, a shrug or denim jacket if weather cools

Well it’s quite boring and shapeless but I sometimes opt for boring and shapeless too, I don’t think it matters what age you are to be able to wear a dress like that.
You haven’t accessorised it (I don’t accessorise anything, I find it a bit much!) - it looks cool and like it serves a purpose of you not getting too hot.
A lot of people have said it’s not ‘flattering’ and I deduce that it means it’s not pulling you in at the waist or whatever. Not everything has to flatter your figure in order to be able to wear it!!

The dress is fine but I think it would look 100 times nicer and more interesting in just about any other colour than grey - it's just a very unsummery colour.

I sympathise OP I am the same as you...slim, but with big boobs. The right bra can make a difference though. Good luck with your bra fitting appointment x

Isn't the dress pale blue?

Doesn't look grey on my screen

You have a large bust so that type of dress is not the most flattering. A v neck or one with a ruffle would suit more

It’s not OP being rude.

Her friends were rude to her, she was just repeating what they said.