To expect people to be upfront with any ‘kinks’

[Laurennnworld]

This has happened twice now in recent relationships - the men I am with waiting many months to reveal ‘kinks’.

Now, I am not saying this should be revealed upfront on date 1, obviously not. But with my ex, he told me after 5 months. My current boyfriend, we are nearly 8 months in. He met my parents yesterday, we had a lovely afternoon with them and came back to mine to watch Eurovision. He then revealed something which he says he’d struggle to go without longer term. No judgement, but not really my thing. I could indulge it occasionally of course. But I wish he told me a few months ago when it would have been easier to cut things off.

Has anyone else experienced this? I am now in a conundrum.

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@AllBranGirl I have to respect someone as stubborn as me. Let's leave it now?

I’ll be surprised if the OP comes back to this thread. It isn’t really about her any more.

You are making homophobic remarks. They also don’t make any sense. By your logic a lesbian who wants a “rubber penis” is actually a straight woman.

Its not homophobic to state that a man who:

Wants to be penetrated with a rubber penis
Pursues an adult woman who wants to have children
Does not disclose this to the woman he is dating until he is sure he has hooked her
Tells her she's closed minded for not wanting to do this, and should be grateful for him wanting her, given her age

Is gay and a misogynist.

If you want to peg men, go ahead, I see nothing wrong with it 🤷‍♀️

There are plenty of bisexual men who are open about liking female and male anatomy. Fair play to them, why not.

But a man who has behaved like this, in my view, is gay, cannot accept it and so expects women to peg him and like it, or at least be grateful that a man wants them, which makes them misogynistic, and oppressive to kind trusting women

I dont know about lesbian sex, I wish them the best, but in my opinion, this isnt the same. There isn't a man preying on a woman's kindness in such a scenario.