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To think by 30 you are middle aged

201 replies

BeLemonDeer · 22/04/2026 17:03

And there is no getting away from it really

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 22/04/2026 22:34

Zov · 22/04/2026 22:28

Beaverwheels · Today 17:12
0 - 15 = child
16 - 25 = youth
25 - 50 = young adult
51 - 70 = middle-aged adult
71 - 85 = older adult
85+ = elderly adult

The idea that 50 is young adult and 70 is middle aged, is as batshit as 30 being middle aged! 😆

I would say

0 - 18 = child
19 - 40 = young adult
41 - 50 = Middle-aged
51 - 70 = Senior
71+ = Elderly

51-70 senior 😂

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 22:35

Cushionseams · 22/04/2026 22:32

TBF, I hated turning 30. By far my worst birthday. I felt I had to grow up.

Sixty next year and I'll be thrilled!

Yeah, I'm 57 & 30 but me hard! But I think that was more as I wasn't in the place I thought I'd be at 30.. not dunce, but I think after my 30th I was more accepting if it 🥴

Slightyamusedandsilly · 22/04/2026 22:36

Clefable · 22/04/2026 17:06

YABU.

That’s before a lot of people even get married/start families nowadays.

At its widest ‘definition’ I would say that you can make an argument for 45+ but personally I think 50-55 is where middle-aged begins now.

Edited

You gonna live to 110? Impressive.

Forgodssakebruh · 22/04/2026 22:36

God no 😅 I felt so young at 30…up to about 38/39 I felt v young…45 upwards…feel old now 😩or definitely older

Plumblossomsbloom · 22/04/2026 22:36

I think 35 is when it starts, that's when youth is over, seems like people always forget that part. Sure, you're middle aged at 50 but that's not when it starts, because you're not young at 49.

60 is when you reach old age IMO

I don't know why people take offence at any of it, it's not an insult. It's just biology.

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 22:36

vodkaredbullgirl · 22/04/2026 22:34

51-70 senior 😂

Almost as funny as 40 being a young adult.

what happened to just 'adult'???

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 22:38

Plumblossomsbloom · 22/04/2026 22:36

I think 35 is when it starts, that's when youth is over, seems like people always forget that part. Sure, you're middle aged at 50 but that's not when it starts, because you're not young at 49.

60 is when you reach old age IMO

I don't know why people take offence at any of it, it's not an insult. It's just biology.

It's not 'biology' & what happened to the period if simply 'adult' ??

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 22/04/2026 22:41

Middle aged is your age + 10

Keepgettingolder81 · 22/04/2026 22:43

I am 45 but still think I am 20!

Tryagain26 · 22/04/2026 22:44

No at 30 you are stil young. Definitely not middle aged

madnessitellyou · 22/04/2026 22:46

I’m 47.

If I was middle aged at 30, I must be due to die shortly, no?

Zov · 22/04/2026 22:47

madnessitellyou · 22/04/2026 22:46

I’m 47.

If I was middle aged at 30, I must be due to die shortly, no?

This. ^ It's batshit isn't it? 😆

Zov · 22/04/2026 22:49

Slightyamusedandsilly · 22/04/2026 22:36

You gonna live to 110? Impressive.

I know right! Middle aged 50-55?! 😂

Forthesteps · 22/04/2026 22:50

Well, you might be...

madnessitellyou · 22/04/2026 22:51

Zov · 22/04/2026 22:47

This. ^ It's batshit isn't it? 😆

I mean, I probably am middle aged now, but despite the noises I make when I get off the couch, the fact I need reading glasses and that just today I caused shock and awe with a very much younger colleague after imparting the knowledge that I didn’t possess a mobile phone until I was nearly 20, in my head I’m still full of the first flush of youth.

Zov · 22/04/2026 22:54

@madnessitellyou Yes, I feel like I'm in my late 20s (in my head) but am knocking the door of 60! 😬

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 22/04/2026 22:55

Or if you understand that you don’t go from ‘young adult’ to ‘middle aged’

  • Infant/Baby (0-1 year)
  • Toddler (1-3 years)
  • Preschooler/Child (3-9 years)
  • Pre-teen/Tween (10-12 years)
  • Teenager/Adolescent (13-17 years)
  • Young Adult (18-25 years)
  • Adult (26-39 years)
  • Middle-Aged Adult (40-59 years)
  • Senior/Elderly (60+ years)
Zov · 22/04/2026 22:58

Middle aged adult - 59?!

ELDERLY - 60?!

PMSL. 😂

I don't envy you @LiviaDrusillaAugusta when the Mumsnetters aged 60, (and all those in their 60s!) see this, and see you calling them ELDERLY, they will be furious! Wait for the backlash!

I mean really?! 😆

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 22/04/2026 23:03

If you're dividing lifespan into 0-30, 31-60 and 61-90, mathematically, you could say that.

But the people who do tend to be either very young or rather like my ex, who was one of the types who believed he was entitled to young women into his 40s and 50s - to him, 30 was practically in the grave for women and he'd bin girlfriends purely because of their 30th birthday coming up.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 22/04/2026 23:04

Zov · 22/04/2026 22:58

Middle aged adult - 59?!

ELDERLY - 60?!

PMSL. 😂

I don't envy you @LiviaDrusillaAugusta when the Mumsnetters aged 60, (and all those in their 60s!) see this, and see you calling them ELDERLY, they will be furious! Wait for the backlash!

I mean really?! 😆

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Edited

As opposed to suggesting 51-70 is ‘Senior’.

And apparently there is nothing between young adult and middle aged.

Zov · 22/04/2026 23:04

@NeverDropYourMooncup

But the people who do tend to be either very young or rather like my ex, who was one of the types who believed he was entitled to young women into his 40s and 50s - to him, 30 was practically in the grave for women and he'd bin girlfriends purely because of their 30th birthday coming up.

Was your ex Leonardo DiCaprio @NeverDropYourMooncup ? Grin

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Plumblossomsbloom · 22/04/2026 23:05

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 22:38

It's not 'biology' & what happened to the period if simply 'adult' ??

That doesn't have anything to do with it. Adult is 18+ and child is under 18. 100 years old is still adult. You don't stop being an adult when you hit middle age. You stop being considered young when you hit middle age.

People can delude themselves all they want but 40, 50 etc isn't young. It doesn't matter if people feel young still, people feel all kinds of things that aren't relevant to anything. We're not talking feelings, but statistics. People's fertility is declining after 35, their metabolism slowly changing which is why there's so many overweight even when eating reasonably healthy who were slim in their youth despite terrible diets full of junk, fine lines start on the face even if you can't see them unless close up. People are out of their youth and all grown up by the time they're 35, they're entering their middle years, ergo they are middle aged 🤷

Zov · 22/04/2026 23:06

35 isn't middle aged! 😂

Viviennemary · 22/04/2026 23:07

Silly. Around 45-55.

ImFinePMSL · 22/04/2026 23:08

I’m 32 and still feel like a teenager.