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To think by 30 you are middle aged

201 replies

BeLemonDeer · 22/04/2026 17:03

And there is no getting away from it really

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AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 17:54

vodkaredbullgirl · 22/04/2026 17:17

What a load of crap

Never one to mince your words! 🤣

hard agree.

@BeLemonDeer I'm sorry to hear you've had a lot of young deaths in your family, but no, 30 is NOT middle aged. It's not defined by people in your family. Personally I'd say mid 50's at the earliest, but I suppose statistically it's mid 40's, but I'd never class someone mid 40's as middle aged.

Monzo1ss · 22/04/2026 17:55

UltimateSloth · 22/04/2026 17:47

Just about yes, if you consider that middle age is a span, not just a single year in the middle of a lifespan.
0-29 - young
30-60 - middle aged
60+ -old.

I think that and I'm 55. Well into middle age.

But I don't think it's a negative. Your middle years are your powerhouse years, when you're working hard, contributing fully to society. More productive than any other age group.

Jesus Christ what silly logic. 30 and 60 year olds in the same category. Bottom set logic.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 22/04/2026 17:56

BeLemonDeer · 22/04/2026 17:03

And there is no getting away from it really

Nope, you're about 15-20 years short there, assuming someone of average/"normal" health!

mrlistersgelfbride · 22/04/2026 17:56

YABU.
Middle age starts at 40 at the very youngest. I’m 41 and don’t feel middle aged at all.

Zov · 22/04/2026 17:57

@UltimateSloth

Just about yes, if you consider that middle age is a span, not just a single year in the middle of a lifespan.
0-29 - young
30-60 - middle aged
60+ -old.

Where did you get this nonsense from? The middle ages? 😆

JohnThomasOnAFloralBedspread · 22/04/2026 17:58

How fucking ridiculous.

MrsColinRobinson · 22/04/2026 17:58

No, that's absurd. Thirties is just beginning adulthood really.

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 18:00

Zov · 22/04/2026 17:57

@UltimateSloth

Just about yes, if you consider that middle age is a span, not just a single year in the middle of a lifespan.
0-29 - young
30-60 - middle aged
60+ -old.

Where did you get this nonsense from? The middle ages? 😆

Yes utter nonsense.

a lot of these have complete skipped 'adult' between young adult & middle aged 🤣🤣

Itiswhysofew · 22/04/2026 18:01

I'm fast approaching 60 and think it's old. At 30, you're approaching middle age. I'd say by 35, you are middle aged.

Lomonald · 22/04/2026 18:01

BeLemonDeer · 22/04/2026 17:03

And there is no getting away from it really

Again you are talking absolute nonsense, I don't know why this keeps getting posted !

GreyCarpet · 22/04/2026 18:01

Does it matter?

I'm always curious when people worry about this sort of thing. I'm 51.

Am I middle aged?

Well, I'm not planning on living until I'm 100 so I guess I must be!

But does it matter? What would change if I gave myself a life stage label?

Moveoverdarlin · 22/04/2026 18:01

Average life expectancy is about 81. So, no.

And if you look at the average 40 year old female, I wouldn’t say they were even middle aged.

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 18:01

JohnThomasOnAFloralBedspread · 22/04/2026 17:58

How fucking ridiculous.

Spot on!

CombatBarbie · 22/04/2026 18:03

Its dropped certainly, middle aged used to be 50+ now id say its def more around the 35-40 mark.

ButterYellowHair · 22/04/2026 18:04

Do you think when 83 is the average lifespan that 30 is half of 83?

ruethewhirl · 22/04/2026 18:04

That’s nice, dear. 🙄

Lomonald · 22/04/2026 18:05

How can a 35 year old be middle aged what are you basing this on @CombatBarbie

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 18:05

Itiswhysofew · 22/04/2026 18:01

I'm fast approaching 60 and think it's old. At 30, you're approaching middle age. I'd say by 35, you are middle aged.

madness.

you can feel how you like about yourself (even though I'd be curious to know why you feel old in your 50's?? I'm 57 & had a stroke & still don't feel 'old')

but you can't decide that's objectively old & 30 is middle aged. 30 is just basically 'adult'
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ButterYellowHair · 22/04/2026 18:05

Itiswhysofew · 22/04/2026 18:01

I'm fast approaching 60 and think it's old. At 30, you're approaching middle age. I'd say by 35, you are middle aged.

I’m 30, I’m one of only two people I know to be married or own a home. Only 2 others have had any babies. If we’re all middle aged the world is doomed.

thefloorislavayes · 22/04/2026 18:06

I think you should revisit this when you’re 30

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 18:06

Lomonald · 22/04/2026 18:05

How can a 35 year old be middle aged what are you basing this on @CombatBarbie

Not enough fingers & toes...

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 18:07

ButterYellowHair · 22/04/2026 18:04

Do you think when 83 is the average lifespan that 30 is half of 83?

🤣🤣🤣👏🏻👍🏻🤣🤣🤣

Cheersminesalargeone · 22/04/2026 18:07

Goodness no, didn’t admit to middle age until my 50’s

Lomonald · 22/04/2026 18:07

AnotherName2025 · 22/04/2026 18:06

Not enough fingers & toes...

Oh ! 😀

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 22/04/2026 18:07

My sister and I are 46 and 48 and wouldn’t say we are middle aged yet. Neither of us has hit menopause so I would say middle age is early fifties to 65. With 65 plus older and elderly at around 85.

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