To think by 30 you are middle aged

[BeLemonDeer]

And there is no getting away from it really

Yes, I suspect the OP is very young.

I presume 30 is when people start counting their change, losing their filter, touching other people’s babies, being racist, blocking up the aisles in supermarkets, shouting at people in busses…..

Well by your reckoning I am currently dead

No

I'm 66 and don't feel middle aged yet... not even sure I'm a grown up.

What a load of crap

I’m early 50’s and I’m not sure I’m there yet, in fact doing more “young” things than when I was young! It’s a mindset

Oh don’t be ridiculous.

You know YABU. Most people don't die at 60. 🙄

Middle age is more a mindset than an actual time period. So if you think you are middle aged, then you probably are.

I don't feel any different in myself to when I was in my thirties, and I'm in the second half of my fifties.

I’m 44 and still don’t feel middle aged, 30 is young!

No, it starts at 40. It used to start at 35 when life expectancy was younger so you were considered a ‘young adult’ till 35 then middle aged till 60 then elderly. I think we’d all agree 60 is no longer elderly.

You do you, I suppose? I mean, is there a reason you think you're going to die young?

Don’t be daft. Your life is just beginning.

But even if you do die young, that doesn't mean you are middle aged earlier, it just means that you die 'young'. Middle-age is a population-wide thing, not specific to individual people.

30? That's depressing, my kids are older than that!

I’m 58. I will never be middle aged!

Just about yes, if you consider that middle age is a span, not just a single year in the middle of a lifespan.
0-29 - young
30-60 - middle aged
60+ -old.

I think that and I'm 55. Well into middle age.

But I don't think it's a negative. Your middle years are your powerhouse years, when you're working hard, contributing fully to society. More productive than any other age group.

I think you’re conflating no longer being very young with being middle aged. I really remember 30 feeling like the end of youth, and it is in many ways.

My parents lived well into their 90s, their parents before them. So I’m glibly expecting to do the same.

I didn’t even consider myself middle aged at 45! I’m accepting it only now as I’m 53. 😂

Of course 30 isn't middle aged.

But I'm really sorry that your family have a history of dying young.

I can see how that must skew your perception of age. But it should spur you into trying to make the most of your life while you can and not think about stereo types of middle age.

Ridiculous. I’m assuming you’re under 30 or in your early 30s. Once you’re actually middle aged you’ll realise 30 is definitely not it.

And remember that treatments keep improving.

All the people older than my dad in his family died in theor 50s. He's in his 80s!

Oh good I'm about to turn 45 so I'm going to go with your suggestion - thanks! 😂❤️

@BeLemonDeeri think your title needs to say ‘AIBU to think by 30 I am middle aged.’ Not ‘you are middle aged.’ This is clearly what you feel about yourself, not us.

Yes - for older generations this is the case. People who were 30 in older generations were basically 40 year olds.

but given 30 year olds as of 2026 would be part of Gen Z, no they are not middle aged. Today’s 30 year olds are still essentially 20 somethings, the landscape has changed. If people born in 96/97 are soon to be middle aged the rest of you are old age, as clearly a distinction needs to be made.