What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

I did at around 28. Was married with two children a lovely house and DH and I were both in good jobs we loved.
Then we decided to mess it up a bit and have another baby, we swiftly got a fourth baby too. I got made redundant and he got promoted and hated the new role.
Had some great luck financially at 37 and it was like we could breathe again. Now at 46 things are brilliant.

I'm 76 and still waiting.

Enjoy it while it lasts - it most likely won’t. But that’s life, nothing stays the same for long. Parents get older, children grow up, the world spins madly on.

I dont think thers one age where everything suddenly feels sorted. Everyone reaches different milestones at different times. Some people feel settled in their late 20s, others not until their 40s or even later. I think chronological age is just one part of the picture, life experience and personal circumstances matter just as much.
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Somewhere around 50

I was 33 - it was getting married and buying our first home. I'd spent my 20's getting qualified, moving up through a few different employments, alongside spending several years with my (now) DH on foreign holidays, various hobbies, etc. Marriage and a house was the culmination of lots of different experiences leading to that point. Neither of us wanted to get married or buy a house when we hadn't scratched the itch of foreign travel or hadn't consolidated our respective careers.

55 and still waiting for that feeling.....

My DD is 33, married, 2 DC, small business start up. She is too busy, not earning enough money, working hard,

I tell her that she is where she should be at her age, it will all come together in 3 to 5 years time, all her hard work will start to pay off.

I look at where I was at her age. It all started to come together at the age age of 42 for me.

For those that have read Douglas Adam’s ‘The Hitch Hickers Guide to the Galaxy” the number 42, is -

“The Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything is… 42.”

That is my benchmark. After that I was able to manage life with a lot more clarity, purpose and direction and at the age of 59, I am much more prepared to deal with life’s stuff. Bring it on!

It definitely comes and goes. I think that most of us manage to muck things up from time to time and then have to start again. I'm in my mid-70's and relatively sorted, but I always have my four AC to bring me crashing back down....

Never!

OP
Just now honestly, age 66. I’m finally content.

Early 40s, once I knew I wouldn’t have any more babies, got through the trenches of small children and found a job that worked alongside everything else.
I imagine it comes and goes though, this could well be the calm before the storm - the storm being teenagers, health worries, marriage worries, whatever else life has in store.

Think i feel sorted now at 53.. i feel at peace in my skin finally. Would love to be slightly richer maybe.

It never is if you have children!

Mine are late 20s/early 30s and by no means settled in life yet. They are much more of a worry in the still hours of the night than they ever were as children because you have little control. Not saying I want to control them - I just mean, with little children you protect them and look after them - with adult children they're out there in the big world and you can't do much to help when things go wrong.

Yep. I felt sorted by late 40s then me and DH had a catastrophic loss of £250k (business venture gone wrong) and now struggling....
Life is full of ups and downs (in my experience anyway)

Hahaha. You’re kidding right?