What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

52 when I retired and went sailing for 5 years.

I was 39. 7 years later it all turned to shit again.

Now, about 12 years on, it is stable and pretty much OK but I’ll never be as spectacularly happy as I was in that fairly brief window.

You have to take the good bits and the bad bits as they come but the main thing for me these days is stability which is much more likely when you are single and your happiness is not in the hands of another person.

I’m 33 soon and I’ve yet to feel this 😅 had children young and I’ve no career which feels like the biggest issue in my life. Also no idea what kind of work I’d like to do (or be any good at!)

Yes, I am very aware of that, I did state that in my OP.
No straight line here either…

50 and still waiting. I’m learning it’s not healthy to live by the ‘ I’ll just get through this bit and then life will be fine’. Not being dramatic, but life isn’t like that unless you are super lucky. We are on here as Mums and regardless of age your kids will always have challenges- they’re just different as they get older. Especially if ND! Life always has ups and downs . Need to just keep the highs not too high and the lows not too low. Apparently! My parents were able to compartmentalise their responsibilities as ending at 18, ( or before!) and seem settled giving no shits and living a comfortable fulfilled life. Now wondering what they did wrong!

49, once I’d gotten out of an emotionally and financially abusive relationship, gotten strong boundaries in place with my ex, saw my children feeling settled and happy in my home after a couple of years of peace and stability, got a good whack of savings aside for emergencies, travel and nice things, and decorated my house the way I wanted it.

Well at 22 I thought m life was sorted, then my partner turned out to be an arse hole … then at 30 I married the man I thought would be my forever partner, we paid off our mortgage on my 40th birthday and I thought we were sorted, 1 gorgeous daughter …. But then he walked out 4 years ago and we divorced last year!….
Im happily single but I don’t think I’ll ever feel like my life is sorted….. I’m 49 today!… I’m reasonably happy at the moment, but I’m menopausal, knees hurt and I struggle to earn enough to support me and my daughter… she’s 15, a great kid but has her own challenges which we both deal with day to day!
I’ve got no private pension so I’ve got financial worries ahead of me I suspect… and will be working till I’m 75 if I live that long!!
Everytime I think ‘I’ve got this - life throws a curveball … so honestly I don’t think anyone ever thinks they’ve cracked life… not unless you’re one of these that have 7 figures in your bank account and excellent health!

Sorry, I realized as soon as I'd posted that my last line might've been perceived as condescending but that really wasn't my intention.. .. it was just poorly phrased (late at night and tired)... my apologies x

Life has challenges and I think over the years, you feel a brief and flitting sense of peace and everything is on track. Short lived as something always comes up and sets you back. As soon as I hit 40 everything went to rat crap. Officially diagnosed after a hefty fight with being in perimenopause, DH and DS1 diagnosed with AuDHD and Autism, extended family grief. I don’t feel myself at all and haven’t done for years. My expectations aren’t high and the smallest of issues is a major issue to me personally. Everyday I wake up I have a feeling of dread or my anxiety plays up. I no longer like to drive because I panic, I can’t exercise the way I used to because I feel like I’ve been hit by a bus daily. My whole world has gotten so much smaller and despite every effort to resolve it, it can’t be conquered. I hate the person I am at the moment, a far cry of the thirty year old who had a completely different personality and smiled and laughed. I find it hard to make peace with that.

50 when we’d paid off the mortgage and the youngest was off to university but we weren’t scratting around to help fund it.

Never been happier since I dropped the men - my adult DS is currently staying with me (four months and counting) and is driving me nuts. Far happier with no men - either relatives or lovers - messing around with my life.

I’m 45 this year: my life is fantastic, my wife is wonderful, we have a happy, healthy 10 year old, careers both good and money in savings. I feel good about life but we could be thrown a curve ball tomorrow where it all gets blown apart. I’m grateful for who I have around me and where I am in life but am wise enough to know everything could change tomorrow so live like tomorrow isn’t promised and make choices accordingly…:within reason.

Make the most of it and live for the day.
I felt grounded, happy and secure and then parents aged (one cancer and death, the other Alzheimer's) and the ground shifted.
Now 67 and through all that and able to breathe!!

I’m 69. Still waiting.

That's a very good and young age to feel that! Sorry I can't see what I'm typing or edit due to malfunction here.

Mid 50s still trying to navigate with DC at secondary school, teenage years to come! Also being SEN it's a lifelong commitment, as with all DC of course.

We're all together in this, young and ild Mums alike.

30s. Boy was I wrong.

Ha ha ha never. And I’m nearly 60.

Just turned 39. Depends what you mean by settled. Very happy in my family life with my babies and husband, but financially we are f#*$ed and will need a few more years to get ourselves sorted.
Dislike my job but good at it and it pays very well.

I'm in my early 40s and I've never felt more unsettled.

Why?

Gosh, I see my life as a bit of a rollercoaster - it’s never boring!

First time I felt sorted was at 21, when I started what was to be a lovely five year relationship with a long time crush.

Next was 15 years later when I started my first job in my dream career.

Then it was the birth of our second child. Our first I’d found a challenge as it was so new, but by the second I felt I’d got this.

There have been a lot of ups and downs since - some minor and some major, but I’d say I’m now in the middle of a big one in my late 50s. The way out is there in front of me, but it’s not happening overnight.

Like I said, it’s never boring…

I was about 41 when I felt like everything was as perfect as it can get. Had a great house, very comfortable income, son due to get married then my husband decided to run off with someone half his age, have another baby and destroy it for all of us.
So now I'm back to being unsettled and will be for life because I don't trust life at all.

I am so sorry to read this. I have remained single for the same reason.

I'm afraid I have to go with Heraclitus on this one- it is the nature of life to be in flux. I did however feel much more settled about the future once my retirement was in view - I love my job and don't plan to retire completely, but to feel you are not on that treadmill, is wonderful.

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