What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

Each decade has improved for me, my teens were horrific, twenties were a mess, thirties it sort of started coming together. I am 40 in a couple of weeks and I feel like I am winning, I am happy, content and got my shit nailed down.

Not counting my chickens or tempting fate but finding early 50s awesome so far. DC away at uni and time for myself after over 20 years of putting myself last. Long may it last!!

I can’t imagine ever feeling like this, nor would I want to.

‘Life is daring adventure or nothing at all’

Interesting post and just goes to show that 'being sorted', whatever that means, is probably overrated and I would have thought a western/capitalist concept too.

I'm not knocking financial security at all but after an extremely traumatic time I'd just settle for good health for my children and me and some peace.

The notion that we get to a point in life and then everything is settled/static is crazy. Life has a habit of chucking massive spanners in the works.

Mid to late forties.

When kids older and easier and could be left at home alone

Just about getting there after retiring last year. Needing to sort out my sock drawer next, and that will take me a little further in the right direction.

As if something clicked overnight.
Interesting. 😊

@researchers3 Yes, I’ve been so busy ticking boxes I feel like I haven’t taken the time to enjoy what I have when I have it. I spend a lot of time reminiscing or future planning, trying to learn how to live in the moment.

It's a myth. Life is never sorted.

48
What age did things come unstuck? 49

The journey continues..

About 70, sons both married, financially ok and some long standing health problems have stabilised for me.
DH is now in good health having nearly died twice.

Feel like I can just relax a bit. Only issue is that we seem to go to more funerals than we would wish.

45 and I’m just starting to feel like I’m getting on top of life now. Getting on top of my finances and giving up alcohol have been the two main drivers for this over recent months.

61, still waiting. Life throws curved balls till the end. I always imagined going with my Dad to his ( five years older) brother's funeral.. However my Dad , always the fitter healthier brother died at 86 last year and his older brother is still going strong at 92. Some things have become easier ie children grown up and I am better off financially, but Im not as fit as I was and get tired more easily. I have had decades of relative peace followed by a decade of turmoil. So I have stopped thinking in terms of ' finally sorted' as you not 'finally sorted' till you dead. What a cheerful sausage I am!

It really depends on how you define “settled.”

I’m married, both 30, homeowners in a lovely area, with a young child and a very supportive relationship. We both have stable, well-paying jobs, own our cars outright, and can comfortably afford a couple of UK breaks each year along with a holiday abroad. Overall, we’re genuinely content with where we are in life.

That said, I wouldn’t say we feel completely “finished” or static. We both have ambitions for career progression, and we’re still in the process of improving and renovating our home and trying finding time together is a challenge.

Around the age of 43 for me.

Early 40s were a positive time financially but I was exhausted with young kids. When they started school i had retrained and just started a new job when covid hit. 6 years on i never lost the massive weight gain of covid so that it a factor. But otherwise at 48 life is good. Kids are somewhat self sufficient coming and going, eldest drives now so no more constant lifts and I'm still busy running a house and with meal prep. Eldest had a lot of issues when younger and it was constant stress but it all seems to have settled now. My job is still PT but I love it and have gained seniority, I have a deep satisfaction I never had in previous positions. Dh earns a lot so we have 3 or 4 holidays per year. I don't really think about money at all. I'm naturally frugal and don't want much stuff but when I do I don't think about the cost. That is a rare and extremely privileged position to be in. I like my neighbours and my house and I see my friends much more often than I did when younger. I also have the nicest colleagues. Family is geographically all over the place which is sad sometimes but they are good people and undemanding and that's more than most people have.

well, due to my chosen career my life was never settled, but it was 'ok' in my 40's when I was still able to make lots of choices & be optimistic about the future.

Due to growing up & living (as an adult) in several different countries & now the other side of the world to my aging mum I never felt settled here or where she is.

But then I had the stroke at 55 & my mum (the other side of the world) has dementia, it's very very unsettled & fuck all I can do about it.

so if you feel settled, enjoy it!! 💕 & make the most of it as life has a shitty way of throwing curve balls!

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I was content until 38-41 now have relationship crap, health crap, worrying about mum, money crap, work crap. Good for you op though, it’s nice when things slot into place after everything being not so easy x

Fleetingly for about 10 years mid 40s to mid 50s. Now I am getting old and more and more things terrify me. I wish I could regain some confidence

Early 30s when I met my husband. Sounds lame but it's true! It could flip again in the future, I'm sure. I'm in my 40s.

I suppose the feeling of settled and what that is will be different for everyone in a sense. Mine was a stable home, stable job, doing good financially and as healthy as possible. There will always be curveballs of course there will and I’m under no illusions, I’m so grateful for how things are right now and the feeling of peace that I have after years of not feeling that way, after years of thinking, “ok once “this” is done everything will be fine” it’s all very personal though I suppose yes.

When i turned 30 lifes been blissful.

During my 40s, especially the last 5 years. I'm learning my quirky mind is actually my biggest strength and to trust myself. The more I lean in the better things get. I'm so grateful for having a wonderful partner and daughter and that my parents are in good health. I have friends whose company I enjoy and a job that suits me so life is good.

Same except I’m 55. Things are very tumultuous atm with dd. I don’t think she’s a mistake, she was IVF, but omg!