What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

54 and waiting. The last three years have been the worst of my life and I have quite a lot of horrible experiences to pick from!

I’m 65 and had been very happily sorted for quite a few years. And my parents got older and older and needier and needier and suddenly I wasn’t sorted at all any more.
I found myself either travelling to help them or worrying about them 24/7. Mum died at 93 and dad at 96 and I’m still trying to sort out probate and IHT.
I’m giving myself a year and then hoping to be sorted again. But it’s been a very rude awakening.

Exactly the same here. I have the odd day.....

54 and i am still waiting. Three teenagers, caring for elderly parents, elderly mother-in-law. Feels like I am being pulled from all angles but I am sure things will ease up at some point.

40! I’m 40 now

I don’t really understand this question, am I being thick?! Settled in what way exactly?

@Poppy61 every time I think I'm finally sorted out something happens...
Met my now husband... Fantastic! Then my dad died.
Bought a house, got engaged. Then my mum died.
Got married. Then MIL died.
Paid off mortgage, thought all was well. Then I got cancer.
Still working through that one!

I found life harder with each year as ive got older so im far from feeling that life is sorted.
im late 40s. cant see that contentment ever coming unfortunately.

I felt like that a few years ago but now having a new round of shit. I think its a bit like investing, ups and downs, resets, periods of growth and then macro or micro factors can bring you down again. Enjoy your good times, they give you the hope and strength for the inevitable resets.

well for me it was finally having a home/house that’s mine, and I’ll never move again! Have a stable job with good pay and progression, having happy and healthy dc, feeling content in myself (after years of quite the opposite!)

I'd say in my 30s. Maybe mid-30s. Married, 2 children, house, career plan, mental and physical health better. Just felt like things had fallen into place.

Im 25 and I think about this often. Will I ever feel settled and calm?! I hope it does happen but at the same time im worried that’s all im striving for and what if im not enjoying the journey 😅it’s hard to enjoy life when it feels so complicated and stressful.

I’ve felt happy & content since sometime in my 30s, not sure exactly when, 37 now and feel life gets better with every year that passes (married with no children)

52, I will keep you posted....

I remember the saying when i was a lot younger, 'Its not what life throws at you, its how you deal with it ".
I thought with this mantra, I could handle anything.

I try to adhere, but hey, its bloody hard.

Ha ha ha ha! In the past few years my husband and I both had major health diagnoses, my dad died and I got made redundant. So life is certainly not sorted in my late 50s. On the positive side I set up my own company which is doing really well and I love it, even though it is scary sometimes. I absolutely didn’t expect to be a founder at 57. So no, my life is not ‘sorted’ but I’m not sure I either expect or want it to be.

I don't think I've ever felt completely sorted. Some elements are but not all. I think I like to be always working towards something. I dont think I'd know what to do with myself if I felt entirely sorted. 64 with twin 18 year old daughters and adhd husband so that's always a challenge

In many ways this thread is making me feel less anxious and stressed about my life. I have had 12 months of hell, to the extent that every time my phone pings I have a feeling of fear and " now what?". This is after 3 bereavements one of them being a young family member who died in shocking circumstances, another family member being the victim of a violent crime and a new baby born to another relative who nearly died at birth. Even that happy news was tangled up in fear and stress. I also have some health issues which seem almost like background noise compared to the other stuff I guess I am pretty resilient, but oh I do long for things to just be a bit dull and predictable. My heart goes out to everyone who has posted about difficult times

Never. If you have kids that is.

Same

Still waiting for this moment, despite having worked constantly at all hours of the day, 7 days a week, for most of my working life.

I'm probably among the bottom 1% of people in terms of work invested against success in life. Loads of extremely hard work, with virtually nothing to show for it.

Ditto

Mid 50s. Just about the time of menopause surprisingly, now I consider it. I started seeing the bullshit and not giving a damn. And also was able to see better what really mattered.

see a little over 30 years ago, we moved into our "it'll do for now" house

I'm 57, I’ll let you know!