What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

I felt sorted at 38. It was a feeling that lasted about 6 months before everything started going to shit and it's been sliding downhill ever since, with the last 4 or 5 years being particularly awful. I'm late 50s now and still searching for some kind of peace with my circumstances. What would count as 'sorted' is a considerably more modest wishlist than it used to be.

People on here are fond of saying 'this too shall pass' when times are tough but in my experience it also applies when times are good. The wheel of life doesn't stop turning. Nothing lasts, OP. I wish I had understood that sooner. Life can be a lot of fun but it can also be very hard sometimes. Very little in the way of home/job/relationship goals - whether achieved or not - changes that. My advice to anyone looking to be 'sorted' would be to focus instead on simple pleasures.

That's such a lovely positive post to read ! Long may it last :-)

73 and still waiting!

Im 40, still waiting

I'm 68, still not decided what I want to be when I grow up!

Just before I turned 40. We got married, bought a house, have 4 children, all at school now, I graduated with my masters, jobs sorted, started going on holidays 2/3 times per year to show the children the world. Im not saying perfect, but settled, on track, sorted.
Then life decided screw you. My husband had a massive stroke in Novemeber at 39 years old. Fit and healthy, totally out of the blue. He is still in hospital now, is in a wheelchair, has had 4 neurosurgeries and is now having extensive rehabilitation in the hope he can make it home in the summer. He likely won't work again, definitely not at his current job.
But I had a good 2 years of settled!

maybe It’s the dissatisfaction that keeps us going lm trying to enjoy the journey rather than focusing on the destination

I've never really expected that. Feeling like "everything is sorted" would be strange and I'd wonder what to do with myself.

Nope 38 and my whole life blew up. Husband left. Now a single parent. Forced into renting again. Feel like I’ve got back 15 years!

At age 24 was a major change for me when I gave my life over to Jesus Christ - many storms came after that but from then on I've had an Anchor that has never failed me. At aged 24 I realised that I not only needed to trust Him but also obey, as there's no true peace without both of those.

In my 60’s and I’ve never felt that way. It must be a lovely feeling.

I'm 62
I'll post on here when it happens

There was a very brief period in 2015/16 when everything felt like it was falling into place, then I ruined it! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm forty and still an absolute disorganised mess in every way. I wonder if it will ever happen for me!

I turned 40 last week, it's only recently happened for me

I'm 55 and life still hard.

45, I’m 49 now

Thank you, I’m not 30 yet and my children aren’t teenagers so I’m sure there’s definitely some struggles to come 😂

I suppose around 48. We paid off our mortgage.I had my new degree ,which had netted me a really nice promotion. Both (modest) cars were paid for and our daughter was on track for university. My husband was in a decent job . I remember thinking we were entering our 50's in a good place.

I'm 76 and still waiting :-).

I’m 47. Began feeling settled in the last few years. Understand my pension and have a plan for what age I want to retire. Know what I need to do between now and then - and have good health, critical illness and life insurance.

happy with lifestyle and understand some have more, some have less.

For me there was an ebb and flow. I was happiest in my late 20s, I had a flat with my own front door for the first time, and was in a job where I was earning double what I had the previous year (not that much but enough). I had good and bad spells after that. Sometimes life happens to you and you can't control it.

Hoping that will happen when my evil witch of a mother finally dies.

Yeah the teen years are pretty rough. As are the menopause years. But your attitude really stood out to me in your post as being the kind of thing which helps people always see something good in life.

I'm not that great at it, but I am trying!
Hope yours sticks with you, it was nice to read a little sunny message on Mumsnet !

Good question. .not happened yet in my 50s but what has happened is I don't care as much re what other people think of me...