Being subjected to SM assault over a wallpaper

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I'm writing this with total incredulity.

A week or so ago I got invited to a friend-of-a-friend's house. The lady in question is clearly a Mrs Hinch type, but each to their own. I did notice wallpaper being unsealed around the cooker/sink area and POLITELY inquired about it. My DD was prem, with heavy lung issues, and one of the things nurses warned me about was wallpaper in the kitchen as a potential fungus/mould and toxin source. I didn't point this out, of course, just gently enquired if she plans to seal it.

She got a bit weird with me, apparently she wipes down her walls regularly, and don't I? Erm, that would make it worse with wallpaper, but I just smiled and nodded.

Now our mutual friend pointed out the absolute barrage of slander on SM. Apparently I was rude (wasn't, just lightly enquired about a sealant?) and "minging" for not cleaning my home properly (my home is kept clean to a post-NICU standard, IYKYK).

Safe to say, that person will be avoided at any cost in the future, but was I unreasonable?

I am neurospicy.

It's not semantics, an assault is something completely different.

Although I can see by this thread that you're prone to dramatics.

I assumed you meant Sadie May assault, & was wondering how it was achieved with wallpaper.

Yeah you were rude and she’s a bit mental.

Even if you had been rude, I don’t think you were btw, she didn’t need to jump on to sm to rant about what you said. She sounds like a lunatic.

I think it's rude to comment negatively on other people's homes, but her reaction seems over the top. (You can get washable wallpaper specifically for kitchens, though it should still be applied properly and not peeling up off the wall at the edges.)

Honestly it’s the kind of thing I would say to a best friend but not a stranger.

I think you saying that to her is awkward but not mean. But her blasting you on social media is mean and petty!

You were rude and seem to have some serious germ/mould phobia. Do you have no idea how to behave in someone else's house?

Big cringe at 'neurospicy'.

Yes, it was a very rude question.

I pretty much always think smug git when I hear that something has been asked or explained gently.

Germ/mould phobia would make me run out of there, not query if they got recommended to seal it to prevent a health problem.

So this term is catching on then?

<missing the point of the thread>

The only appropriate comment if someone is showing you their house/new kitchen/whatever is “how lovely”.

even if it isn’t.

it might be a hoarders nightmare filled with mould and you still say “how lovely” or equivalent words.

Why, it's how I describe myself. I also describe myself as many other things, and if it sits right with me to think about myself in that way, why would you be cringing?

Only with people who diagnose themselves via tiktok, ime.

I hear it bloody everywhere these days.

Funny, so do I when someone posts things like these.

Sorry, full diagnosis here by an NHS registered professional.

What’s neurospicy?

Neurodiverse.

"neuroSPICY"

😂😂😂

Fabulous!!

What people who think they are neurodivergent say to sound quirky.

Really? An NHS professional diagnosed you as neurospicy?

I am neurodiverse and I am quirky, so it fits well.