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To end it after I found my boyfriend on the sex offenders list

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Hallb · 29/12/2025 00:23

I’ve been with my boyfriend 6 months, I knew in the past he had been to jail. He mentioned something about weed, he has turned his life completely around and I had no reason to believe otherwise

he lives in my city but for some reason tonight I Googled him in his home town. I found something that made me sick to my stomach

he is on the sex offenders list. 10 years ago he was an 18 year old man charged with sexual conduct with an under 13 year old. I cannot believe it. I feel sick, my hands are sweating and if I knew this about him I would never have dated him. Part of me wants to confront him for not telling me, part of me wants to hear his explanation even though I know he will try and explain it away. Im heartbroken, he has to register as a sex offended for 25 years. I’m embarrassed, and feel kind of violated. Am I over reacting? I just don’t know what to think at all.

i 100% do not agree with what he’s done, there’s no explanation in the world that would make me stay with him

OP posts:
Skybluepinky · 29/12/2025 18:46

Hallb · 29/12/2025 00:28

I don’t even think I’m unreasonable I just needed to talk it out. I’m far too embarrassed to tell any of my friends

and yes he was 18 at the same school as this young girl. The articles specifically say under 13 so god knows how old she was

Big scheme of things he is a peado, just kick him to the kerb and move on.

LlynTegid · 29/12/2025 18:50

Just end it, he won't need to be told why, I am sure he will know.

Though if he starts another relationship, please let the woman concerned know if at all possible.

me24x · 29/12/2025 20:17

Cut the relationship dead immediately. If you confront him you are only give him a chance to ‘explain’. There is NO explanation for sexual conduct with a child under 13 years old NONE.

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