To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

I just saw a video on Instagram of a young, slim, attractive woman lubing up a bedknob that she suggests then goes up her arsehole over on her only fans. Does that sound like something you could do op?

You asked for other suggestions- I’ve started doing a side hustle of travel and network marketing- lots of successes stories- minimal outlay. Long term I’d feel grim doing OF but I get your struggle x

Yea just try it, why not!! I think for the big money you wouldn't get away with being faceless, but for just a top up then I see no reason to not try it

Jesus Christ! This is horrible.Why the hell should OP have to do this with 3 adults?

'Get a higher paying job'
That's literally what she's trying to do. OnlyFans is a job.

Its not concievable that a 40 yr old mum of 3 will earn anything off Only Fans.

The posters telling OP to get a higher paying job aren’t helping - everyone would do that else.

OP is earning above average already and it likely also fits around her lifestyle.

OF is not worth it unless you are very unique and willing to put the hours in.
You have to have your face on camera too.

Better suggestions would be sure hustles that OP can do to make extra money in the evenings.

Its not a job its sexwork

I agree with everyone who has said this is a bad idea and you aren't going to make any money. Just don't do it. If one of your kids friends find out they will rip the absolute piss out of them. 1. That their mum is on OF in the first place, and 2. That she has zero subscribers and/or extremely cheap content.

I'm sure the two uni students would rather get Saturday jobs than know their mum is trying to flog homemade porn on the internet.

Try uber eats? My hubby makes £200-400 a week doing this. Choose your own hours and area

Either you're a child posting on here that has NO IDEA what the real world is like, or you've been born into an in an extremely privileged position. Either way life hasn't humbled you yet.

Here's your answer - Your comments are idiotic at best. Are you actually for real? If only life was like that. Get a higher paying job?

Some people on here are absolutely clueless as to what life is like for millions of people. I'm regularly amazed at some of the suggestions on here, but this one is definitely the most useless, pointless 'suggestion' ever.

If you decide to do this (and I sympathise and understand) set clear boundaries …

1. nothing to identify you (as you say) but check no distinguishing marks etc

2. nothing to identify the location

3. ensure no one in your real life but especially your kids lives know

4. parameters on what you do/show and don’t

do you trust this guy? What if you broke up, would he tell?

Why not?! She's only risking ruining her whole life and traumatizing herself and her children, for the near certainty of not earning a bean.

She doesn’t drive

The problem is, the “solution” OP has hit on is no solution at all. She’s not going to solve her money problems on OF. She may as well try to solve them by buying a scratch card. It’s just not a plan.

PP’s suggestion of getting a better paid job was expressed flippantly but is ultimately the only answer. Nobody is suggesting it is an easy thing to do, but it is a much better aim to work towards than the OF idea. (Leaving aside the very concerning stuff about the guy- there are plenty of men out there basically grooming vulnerable women into doing OF- no idea whether that’s the case here but it is a concern.)

You need to get your kids to chip in. You aren’t doing them any favours otherwise.

Crap sorry. Missed that bit

Hi @Daydreamnotbeliever hope you are ok.

Ruining her whole life? Are you always this dramatic?

Why not train in running face painting/children's parties. You could make a fair amount of money and it would be legal ,decent and honest. I do think only fans is not a good way to earn a living. It could be the case your company could sack you for being on it and then you would be without your job and salary.

That is the solution, yeah. I understand why you'd like them to enjoy their free time and focus on uni, it's just you can't afford to fund that. So they will need to work more.

Hi, OP, friends of mine have told me that part of student life is learning to budget and it is a skill everybody needs. You are not actually helping your youngsters. You could say to them they each have to do the cooking and buying of food for 1 week each and they totally fund any expenses. Otherwise when they do start work fulltime they will not understand budgeting. You are doing them no favours by letting them keep all their money .If you do the online stuff it could damage your reputation with the company you work for .I am wondering why you are letting your family getaway with not contributing. If they decided to study away from home they would have to. For their lives to work well they need to learn budgeting and help you out.

You need to use food banks and foodshare groups OP. And get your children to find recipes and cook whatever's available. You can save a huge amount.

It's the oldest profession in the world.

Work from home jobs in customer service/ charity work(paid) that want people to cover evening/night shifts