To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

Surly you would be better off doing the adult entertainment phone lines. You won’t need anyone to manage you, your face will never be out there and you can do it from home.

If you're not making it, then your children have to step up and contribute more. Working three evenings a week is less than most university students I've known (and I've worked in a university directly with students). Your eldest needs to make sure he is getting all entitlements and then contribute more.

How do you think your children would feel if they knew you did something like OF to support them instead of asking them to step up? I know I'd feel terribly guilty as the child in this situation. It's quite possible they would find out one day.

I have three the same age at home. Yes, there are special needs and full time students involved. They contribute and buy a lot of their own food without it being a hardship to them.

Im pretty certain hes only agreed because he could see how desperate i was. Not because he wants to do it.

This is awful! Don’t involve a good friend in something he doesn’t want to do, it’s not fair to pressure and guilt trip him into it because you feel desperate. It will go wrong and sour the relationship if you’re both not in it 100%. Also, if he is able to be coerced into doing things he’s not comfortable with you really don’t want to risk your private photos with him because who knows whether he will bend to coercion from elsewhere.

He is clearly uncomfortable about doing this so ignoring the risks to you try and see how unfair and exploitative it is for you to have pressured him into it because you know he can’t say no to you. It’s coercion and it’s not okay just because it’s you providing the photos. If you are desperate to try OF at least do it by yourself without involving an unwilling participant.

Agree. You can't do that, OP. How. would you feel if your son or daughter were in his shoes? Not exactly enthusiastic consent, is it?

I think it is a saturated market. I did read that the average earnings on Etsy are higher than only fans.

Are you very unique?
Do you have a disability of some sort?

Do you know how many thousands of women are on it and why would men pay to see you instead of all those other women?

You would 100% have to show your face. You won’t get anywhere else.

I am not against it at all.
There is a woman who is almost 7ft tall and been bullied her whole life and she’s making a killing and I think good for her.

But I think you’re being very naive.

The hours you have to put in are insane.
You say you can’t work weekends but have a FT job - so when are you planning on doing it?
You don’t get to take a couple videos for an hour a day and make hundreds of pounds.

You need to be different to the thousands of women already on it.

I don’t understand why your FWB would get 50% of the money when you’d be the one on camera, you’d be the one doing it all, you’d be the one who could have repercussions with your kids and job.

He doesn’t need to be involved at all.

If he thinks it’s such a great idea and wants to help you out with money then why not suggest he does it and promote it for the gay community and then spilt the cost that way.
You’ll probably get a lot more success that way.

You dont need to start again, a lot of skills are transferable. Just because you in one industry doesnt mean you cant side step into others. Ive done it a few times. Why not speak to a career advisor, there may be many more options than you think. Think outside the box.

It sounds really difficult OP but personally I wouldn't go down OF route, it's too risky (ie footage out there, upsetting DC), may make you feel like degraded and from what PP have said may not even earn you much money.
If one of your DC is a girl would you want her to do it??!! And what message does it give any DS?

I totally get 40k doesn't go far for 4 adults.
The eldest that has disabilities do they get PIP? Certainly worth applying if not and getting help to fill out the form, would they be entitled to any UC top up or any housing benefit if you are renting and you put them on tenancy?
Youngest at uni, if they are working part time whilst at uni they are probably doing all they can.
It's great they are all working, studying and contributing sounds like you've done a great job raising them.
Hopefully one your younger 2 graduate things will become easier.
But I do get life must feel a bit of a grind, money worries are the worst.

OP could have asked chat gpt herself though, if she wanted the opinion of a robot.

I think we have scared OP away. 😣

I didn't read it as an AI response 🤷🏻 but then I'm autistic and often get accused of using AI to write things, so maybe I struggle to tell the difference?

Your male friend is not "safe".

Look into bank switches (tax free can get literally hundreds very easily) Google and martin Lewis has a guide. Also look into his market research guide - can usually get around £50 an hour, register with the companies he list & put in the effort applying for everything, try these first!

There was a girl in my town who did it when it was still relatively new. She was in her 20s and stunning looking. She was "smol" apparently and very niche as she was 4ft10, very curvy, heavily tattooed, coloured hair with massive pale green eyes. Very innocent and sweet looking.

She made a bit of money at first, but you have to get yourself out there and put free content on platforms like Reddit to entice people in. She posted stuff on facebook that sounded like her MH was dipping. She was posting that explicit (paid for) content was getting leaked so if you googled her username, full nudes would come up.

Then her dad and his mates got wind of it and so did all of their mates. She posted about having to block a load of "perverts". Tbf, if most of of them had know her since she was little, it is pretty pervy. Then she posted about having really bad MH and that she was coming off everything and all SM. She ended up moving abroad to escape it.

If you did it, you need to consider everything. You'd need to consider the money split for one, bearing in mind that you'rethe one who'd face any repercussions. Nobody will have naked screenshots of him. Nobody would be leaking his content into the public domain. What industry do you work in? Could your employer/industry be funny about it?

You said you son coaches? Football? If so, has he thought about reffing as you can earn around £30-£40 a game.

I’ve no issue with you considering OF.

It’s your body etc.

I think you’re vastly underestimating the cost to start up (equipment, outfits etc)and it sounds more of a pipe dream.

You are going to be better off simply by finding a higher paid job. If you’re sitting there going that’s not possible, it’s too hard etc… then you need to start planning your exit from that role and what you’re doing next because you’re in a dead end job with zero prospects.

Consider focusing your efforts into your cv and examine your transferable job skills. Speaking to a good recruitment agency will help with that.

With kids in uni, I'd say this is a big no no. Their friends could stumble across your account, and you don't know what implications that might have on your kids. That was my first thought. Also, agree with others, faceless you probably won't get far.

This. Financially you'll probably make about £25.

Yeah, she can't become a plumber or gas engineer whilst also doing another full time job. To make money in property you either need available cash or you need to source some sort of investor. Lots of people earn money on YouTube and it is possible to run a channel in your spare time. There are plenty of channels giving advice about starting, content creation, how to get monitised etc.

How is earning quite a bit over the average salary, on a job that you need to be degree-qualified in a 'dead-end job'?? Honestly some of the comments on here are insane.

I still think renting a room to a foreign student may be viable. I have a friend who does this as she was made redundant. She has a lovely masters student from China who is very quiet and studies all day, so much less intrusive than she expected.

Not surprised with all the judgemental, spiteful comments she was getting

There are four adults living in the house. I don't know if she has a big property?

Probably not. Two of them could share perhaps. Better than Only Fans.

It’s a dead end if there is no progression.

£40k a year doesn’t require a degree.

What’s insane is how unwilling people are to step out of their comfort zones and instead of considering the possibility that they are worth more, have transferable skills and can earn more without taking their kit off, they think you need a degree for a £40k a year job.

I make over £50k and I have no degree. I will at some point in the next two years be hitting over £70k with keeping my clothes on, ensuring I’m getting the experience I need to obtain that and keeping my skills up to date.

Outside of some very specific careers a degree is not necessary.

Too true. However, I think the obvious thing is that the adult student DC pay for food at least. This keeps being suggested, but the OP doesn't seem to want to do it. They could easily afford to contribute from their student loans and jobs.