DH said I’m selfish for having a dessert with birthday meal

[Paulaloves]

Apologies if TMI but I suffer from IBS and have certain trigger foods. I largely avoid these but occasionally treat myself when it’s an occasion such as my birthday.

It was my 40th meal at the weekend with friends so I decided to have a dessert i’d usually avoid. In front of our friends, DH acted funny and asked if me having that’s a good idea. When I said yes I will it’s my birthday, he said I was being selfish and it’d be him who has to suffer the consequences later. Really embarrassing in front of company.

Do you think I was being unreasonable?

Wow, he's an uncompromising jerk. I have IBD, I manage it 95% of the time but sometimes all this "managing" gets weary and you just want to have something nice. You know you'll suffer later but the occasional joy of a sumptuous pudding is irresistible, especially on a birthday and a big one at that.

You should not be embarrassed by what he says, it's an illness like any other and it's amazing how many people do suffer from IBS, IBD, diverticulitis, etc.

So, have the pudding, be prepared to have a reaction and tell him to live with it.