To be putoff intimacy with DP due to this?

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DP and I are doing the deed a lot more regularly at the moment because we are ttc. This is usually in the evening when we first get into bed.

DP has a habit of going to the loo for several minutes before he joins me. I told him I find this off putting and unhygienic and asked if he can wait until after or go earlier in the day.

He just doesn’t see the issue and how someone would find it off putting.

Do you think I’m being unreasonable or would this annoy you too? It just seems stupid timing when you know you are going to be intimate with someone. It’s not a one off, it’s most occasions.

…but not too much, or they’ll need a
shower afterwards 😁

From his poopy bum to her vagina? Oh my god this thread is getting grim, haha

Can't believe the amount of people who won't have sex with someone unless they've showered. Not very spontaneous is it?

Ah got good laugh from replies 😆

But this isn’t a case of spontaneous sex, it’s a man that knows he’s going to have sex and also knows he’s going to use the toilet. He could easily have a shower.

I’m not even getting into the topic of lack of bidets…………….

Or perhaps a mutual sluice down with the bum gun?

I think I have fairly high hygiene standards, but no, I refuse to shower twice a day unless I'm actively dirty or sweaty. I time my activities so that it's unnecessary to do so. How on earth did anyone manage, back in the days of weekly (or less frequent) bathing?

People wash after going to the toilet?

Isnt sex supposed to be spontaneous? Who said romance was dead

Apparently so 😂

Get him some wet toilet wipes if he's not going to shower. Then his butt should be sparkling.. Although, tbh if would put me off knowing he'd just finished having a shit! As long as he cleans himself up properly and no oral, it's not too bad.

Presumably OP isn't showering before sex and has pooed at some point that day.

What? You do know it's the penis going into the vagina when ttc?
What's his bumhole got to do with it ?

I imagine that cottaging will probably blow your mind then.

Well, presumably they mean, wash his hands...

I beg your finest pardon? 🤨

What on earth is a bum gun? 💦 🔫 💩

Why can't he get his own wet toilet wipes?

Have you read the thread? They think sex without a full shower right before is unthinkable.

This has set me off again. Brilliant. 😆

How are people shitting if they need to do a shower afterwards?

This thread isn’t really doing anything for the stereotype that certain areas of the northern hemisphere is averse to hygiene.

I've literally never in my life, when about to have sex with someone, thought 'Hmm, when did they last have a poo? Was his last shit before or after his morning shower?'

😂

He needs to wash after! That is so horrendous 😂

Because nothing spells "I want you more than life itself, take me now Kevin" like the gift of moist toilet paper.

God, I have IBS. I'd be in the bathroom all day ! 🤣