To be putoff intimacy with DP due to this?

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DP and I are doing the deed a lot more regularly at the moment because we are ttc. This is usually in the evening when we first get into bed.

DP has a habit of going to the loo for several minutes before he joins me. I told him I find this off putting and unhygienic and asked if he can wait until after or go earlier in the day.

He just doesn’t see the issue and how someone would find it off putting.

Do you think I’m being unreasonable or would this annoy you too? It just seems stupid timing when you know you are going to be intimate with someone. It’s not a one off, it’s most occasions.

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This thread is the shit 😆 💩 👌

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If you wipe properly, there's no need for a full shower after evacuating your bowels, whatever hemisphere you hail from. 🙄

So, partner is having a bowel movement before hopping into bed with OP for sex? What a gross mood killer.

Tell him to shower before sex

It's not spontaneous if not only the sex is planned but the shit is too. And don't mens bathroom breaks take about 20 minutes while they wait for poo stork to drop a fresh basket for them to subsequently deposit?

Does he carry it around all evening and then descend upon the throne in due preparation every evening, ready to poo and proceed to his required duties? Does HE feel sexy when he's literally just had a poo?

Again, if you told me I had to poo right now I would be flabbergasted and entirely constipated.
This man is a marvel of the arse region. He ought to be revered throughout the land for his predictable and efficient deposits. Truly an example to all the other men seemingly glued arsedown to the toilet seat.

I know, it's so much sexier when the turtle pokes its head out mid-thrust and then drops softly onto the sheets.

I would always shower between pooing and having sex and I will always go for a wee after (this helps dispel any bacteria in the urinary tract). But I have woken up doubled in pain and bleeding from a UTI so no, I don't think a wipe is enough. I am not a hygiene freak but if you swabbed a washed hole and a wiped hole there would be more bacteria on the wiped hole. Sexy science. Then hands all over bodies then rubbed on genitals..... Does anyone need a diagram 😂

I didn’t presume…

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Don't get the correlation. But, f-ing hilarious. 😂😂😂

And that, in a nutshell, is why I always have a dustpan and brush to hand and cover the bed in a series of lace doilies before even thinking of lifting my nightie.

Is it just part of his routine, make sure his bladders empty, make sure his colon is empty, so there are no surprises, accidents or smells, anything a bit concerning down there may make the act difficult. Tell him to wash afterwards if you find it off putting, or go and have a coffee let him have his alone time and come back when he's in bed!

Are the neighbours OK with that? 😏

This is the funniest thread I've seen since the anuspenis beaker

And when I get home, I'm going to cherish my wife for being so utterly normal about sex. There are some insanely uptight people on here.

If he stops powdering his nose before sex, won’t you then be equally put off by the thought of him on the job, intimately near, whilst backed up with poop?

Romance, optional. Snorkel, mandatory 🤿

Just imagine! The 10.30pm knock on the door. "Excuse me mate, could I just use the loo? I need to take a shit and have a quick pump of your bum gun 'cus I'm on a promise."

As a woman, I feel the same. I wouldn’t feel the need to shower straight afterwards either. As an adult I’m able to wipe properly, with wet wipes if needed. If there were smell issues or other ‘side effects’ that actually affected you then you’d be within your rights to bring it up, but otherwise it’s none of your business. I’d hate someone to feel like they could have a say in what time of day I ‘took the kids to the pool’.

But doesn't everyone use the toilet immediately before getting into bed and whatever is necessary happens, or am I getting old, well probably, but I think I always have,

Funnily enough I was just thinking I suddenly appreciate 10x more how my partner is so OTT about cleaning and smelling nice, including before coming to bed.

Different streaks strokes, different folks.

So you never just have spur of the moment spontaneous sex?

I don’t see the issue about pooing. Tho a shower would be nice after if he’s expecting a blow job /lick etc around the ball/bum area

i always try for a wee before or else painful having sex if need to go

he obv wants to relax during sex

so say you are going to bed. He will go for a poo. You go up 10mins later

I have some friends who are swingers. One day they had a potential candidate come round for some spontaneous fun. When he arrived, he went in the bathroom for 20 mins where they heard the whole commotion of his bowels.

Yes they asked him to leave after and didn't even have a shag themselves. Probably the most disturbing story they've shared

I accept that having a shower is a nice thing to do, but it really doesn't matter if you don't. We are organic - sweat, shed skin, go to the loo. This isn't a bar to having sex with someone.
During the summer when people have been a bit sweaty overnight. Have none of you had a quicky in the morning on first waking up? The moment is gone if you get up.

It wouldn’t be Mumsnet without a diagram, so…yes please.