To dislike my husband masturbating in bed?

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I was woken last night by the bed shaking and my husband heavy breathing. I asked him WTF he was doing and he said ‘just trying to get comfy in bed’ however it was clear he was wanking next to me while I slept. There have been other episodes where I’ve been woken up and thought ‘is he…?’ but never been sure until last night.

I haven’t said anything to him yet but have been thinking about it all day. He has a higher sex drive than me and I know this frustrates him, but AIBU to find it a bit gross and disrespectful?

Nothing grimy about masterbating to get to sleep . Annoying if it wakes you up though.

Is your own bedroom no longer considered private.

I’d join in 😁

I doubt it. Are you new here? Most people tend to sympathise with men on here.

competition. Loser does the washing up 😂

Sorry, do they? And here I thought from my years here, that this was the land of LTB 😂

Wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d be lying if I said I’d never done the same myself to get off to sleep occasionally.

Depends what suits that threads narrative. 9/10 men are still evil though.

That would turn me on but I have a high sex drive.

Jesus wept. Why is he a disrespectful pig for doing something perfectly natural ?

That's gross and off-putting. Doesn't he care about your reaction?? I would be upset - doing that next to you in your bed requires your consent as well.

So if he shits in their bed that's a-okay because it's perfectly natural...?

Are you joking? Misandry is rife here. @SuPollardsPolkaDotFrock is 100% correct.

But we’re not talking about shitting in their bed are we - if you think that would be natural then I don’t know what to say.

Next to her in bed. Amazingly disingenuous.

I wouldn’t have a problem with this at all. If he wants a wank in his own bed, so what. However you do have an issue with it, so I guess you could ask him not to… I do think that’s a bit controlling though.

Would you be a little bit offended if your partner made sick faces at the thought of your vaginal secretions? I would be. I'd also think he was a bit of an immature twat.

Why. Do you think a woman needs her partner’s consent to wank in bed next to her husband too ? I’ve done it many times, as I suspect lots of women here have too, and never felt the need to ask ‘permission’ MN is weird sometimes.

Not if someone else is in there, no.

But it’s a shared bedroom. It’s a private space when the other person isn’t there.
Except she is there, she’s lying in bed sleeping while he’s wanking next to her.
I’m sorry, but that’s grim.

He wasnt blasting porn, or being a sex pest, I think i wouldnt care

Me too and then I'd help finish him off 😉

Why do you feel he needs your consent ? Have you never done this yourself ? And if you have did you ask ‘permission’ first. OP has a lower sex drive than her DH, which is fine. Controlling how he addresses that is not.

Yep, this. And there are such things as tissues - and god forbid he might even shower afterwards.

My partner does this and I do find it pretty grim. I’ve never said anything though and just pretended to be asleep when it’s woken me up.

I do think it’s gross, but he does have a way higher sex drive than me so I leave him to it.

I don’t get why he couldn’t go off and do it in the bathroom or something though.