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To be so fed up amd disheartened with all the xenophobia

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Nohqters · 04/08/2025 21:56

Honestly, I’m just feeling worn out and heartbroken lately. It seems like racism and xenophobia are becoming more and more mainstream again, wrapped up in the same tired scare stories, whether it’s splashed across a tabloid or coming straight out of Farage’s mouth. Then you see stupid threads on here about civil war trying to stir up more hate.

Even my own brother has started sounding like Tommy Robinson. Ten years ago, that would’ve been unthinkable. It’s like people have completely forgotten the lies we were sold during Brexit—by Farage, Tice and their crowd—and yet they’re still lapping up everything they say. No critical thought, just blind anger pointed in the wrong direction.
I’m so fed up with the endless nonsense about small boats, “white minorities,” and all the rest of it. It’s all designed to divide us, stoke hate, and distract from the real culprits—rubbish politicians, broken policies, and the ultra-wealthy hoarding resources while the rest of us struggle.

But instead of looking upwards, it’s always “blame Johnny Foreigner.” It’s exhausting, and frankly terrifying how quickly people fall for it.

Is anyone else feeling this? How are you managing conversations when even close family seem to be buying into this stuff? I’m trying to stay compassionate, but it’s getting harder to bite my tongue.

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RoseofRoses · 04/08/2025 22:51

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skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:51

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:50

You get what you came for. Whatever that is.

Aww thanks, you were so full of compliments earlier too. See the more you come out with these trash labels the less they matter.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:51

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:49

Ah I'm a xenophobe am I? What else is in your box of labels? I'm sure I can find a fresh bingo card.

Please do. Play bingo to your hearts content It changes nothing. But as long as you feel vindicated that's okay with me

Serpentstooth · 04/08/2025 22:51

Name-calling. Don't dignify it by terming it an argument.

UrbanOasis · 04/08/2025 22:51

Yes, I'm so disheartened and deeply worried. I feel like I'm living in the 1930s. Like Fascism is at our doorsteps and people won't see it.

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 22:52

Half the posters on this thread appear to be drunk and it’s not even Friday.

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:53

UrbanOasis · 04/08/2025 22:51

Yes, I'm so disheartened and deeply worried. I feel like I'm living in the 1930s. Like Fascism is at our doorsteps and people won't see it.

I spy with my little eye a lefty label being thrown beginning with the letter "F" 😂

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:53

UrbanOasis · 04/08/2025 22:51

Yes, I'm so disheartened and deeply worried. I feel like I'm living in the 1930s. Like Fascism is at our doorsteps and people won't see it.

Fascism is about intolerance. The irony is always lost on lefties. Disagree with them and out comes the box of tricks. 🥱

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:53

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:51

Aww thanks, you were so full of compliments earlier too. See the more you come out with these trash labels the less they matter.

Enjoy your trash labels. You can have more if you like. I do not care for your game of picking out buzzwords to retaliate against. Some people here are conversing rather than grabbing at the tablecloth like a toddler.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:53

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:53

I spy with my little eye a lefty label being thrown beginning with the letter "F" 😂

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😆 🤣 😂 every time!

ForWittyTealOP · 04/08/2025 22:54

Yes it's upsetting and demoralising. Being overtly racist and prejudiced used to be something people kept quiet about unless they were sure they were in like minded company. . Now they're encouraged to call it "common sense". It's as ugly as it ever was, no matter what algorithm leads you down a rabbit hole of believing that most people are also racist.

Also being left wing and aware isn't an insult, no matter how many people try to manipulate us into thinking it is.

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 22:54

BIossomtoes · 04/08/2025 22:52

Half the posters on this thread appear to be drunk and it’s not even Friday.

Its a joke just like the outpouring of the rabbid virtue signals being thrown around.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:55

ForWittyTealOP · 04/08/2025 22:54

Yes it's upsetting and demoralising. Being overtly racist and prejudiced used to be something people kept quiet about unless they were sure they were in like minded company. . Now they're encouraged to call it "common sense". It's as ugly as it ever was, no matter what algorithm leads you down a rabbit hole of believing that most people are also racist.

Also being left wing and aware isn't an insult, no matter how many people try to manipulate us into thinking it is.

Absolutely
See also woke, bleeding heart and liberal.

AlwaysBelieveTheEx · 04/08/2025 22:55

I don’t go on SM. I think Farage is a fool who could lead the country into far right territory. I have no problem whatsoever with immigration.

What I do have a problem with is the way that people are made out to be reactionary idiots for worrying about ways in which the country has changed - dramatically in some areas - and told they are hateful racists.

There are very few problems with migrants from Hong Kong, mentioned above. We need people in this country, our birth rate is getting lower. I have no problem with immigration.

I have a problem with men coming in from cultures where women are treated badly routinely, men who see white girls as fair game. I have a problem with legal immigrants whose grooming gangs activity is covered up because local authorities don’t want to be called racist. I have a problem with people dumbing this down as “you know white men rape too?”, and yes I know, and yes I have a huge problem with rape/assault wherever it comes from, but when women and girls are being affected yet again and ignored because people would rather assume they are liars and racist to boot.

I know someone who lives near a migrant hotel. It’s no longer safe for her daughters to go out to meet their friends because groups of men hang around, video them, threaten them, throw things at them, and it’s become a really unsafe place to be. This family can do nothing about this because when they and other locals have tried they’ve received the same treatment as people on threads like this. They’re made out to be thicko racists.

I know someone who escaped from her violent husband with two young daughters. She was placed in a council house in Bradford. Her daughters were targeted by Pakistani Muslim men on the same estate. They were part of the cover up that happened for decades in various parts of the UK. They reported to police, social services, their gp, their MP at the time, none took her seriously. Most implied she was racist. She and her daughters ended up recluses in the house until she managed to move a few years later.

These are real people affected by the decision to allow men from cultures that typically disrespect women and see them as worthless to be prioritised over them. Thinking this is a poor decision does not make someone racist.

As someone said on another thread, we have our own homegrown rapists that the police and courts prioritise, why allow other men from cultures with far worse track records than ours to stay in the country? This is nothing to do with their skin colour, and everything to do with their behaviour which is hushed up and the victims called racist. It’s horrific.

The left attitude towards women is disgusting. They don’t care, and would rather virtue signal than take any action that would result in better safeguarding and protection for women and children. Instead we have a party that still insists men can be women, and swears blind that these men are safe, despite years of their information not being recorded accurately by the police and other orgs in case someone turned round and <<shock horror >> called them racist.

The very reason this country has become more racist is because of this, and because of the belittling way people are spoken down to. The left have chased people into Farage’s open arms. They’ve literally created Farage’s current position for him, and opportunist that he is, he’s jumped straight into the role.

Serpentstooth · 04/08/2025 22:55

"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet". Changing its name won't change its form. Fascism.

MathNotMathing · 04/08/2025 22:55

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healthadvice123 · 04/08/2025 22:56

Burying heads in the sand and ignoring that the country cannot cope and people are entering illegally does not help and calling everyone a racist, I have seen black people etc who have an issue with it as well are they racist ? In fact nobody knows what race someone is on here unless they state. The numbers arriving is not sustainable thats a fact, also entering illegally is taking places from those waiting to enter legally and seeking asylum. We have to stop the illegal immigration and keep immigration at a manageable level, I don’t care what colour / race those that come here legally are but legally is the word ( legal includes proper asylum) also we can’t ignore the fact most are young men, where are the women and children, what is happening in some of these countries, will it not make it worse when men of working age leave. The issue is huge and more than just a uk problem. But people are getting fed up and the goverment need to listen and start addressing the situation. Also some live in areas affected more than others that will help form your opinion when your living it day in day out.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:56

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:55

Absolutely
See also woke, bleeding heart and liberal.

Bloody hell, at this rate my bingo win is going to guarantee me a nice little nest egg.

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:56

UrbanOasis · 04/08/2025 22:51

Yes, I'm so disheartened and deeply worried. I feel like I'm living in the 1930s. Like Fascism is at our doorsteps and people won't see it.

It is indeed worrying that we have 80+ Sharia courts in the UK, influenced by actual fascist countries who stone women to death, etc.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:57

Interesting that people are piling on here to argue that xenophobia is not disheartening with a their might.

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:57

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:44

I prefer ‘suicidal empathy’.

OP - can you answer whether you think the factual statement that Afghan men are 20 times more likely to commit a sex crime is ‘hate speech’?

Come back OP, or have I scared you off with this question?

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:57

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:56

Bloody hell, at this rate my bingo win is going to guarantee me a nice little nest egg.

You must be done now. Well done you.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:58

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 22:56

It is indeed worrying that we have 80+ Sharia courts in the UK, influenced by actual fascist countries who stone women to death, etc.

..and they still marched for Iran! Quite DISHEARTENING to see feminism thrown out the window. Men win - again. Pitiful.

Wordsmithery · 04/08/2025 22:59

You're right OP. I don't have any answers or solutions but just wanted to say that you're not alone in thinking this.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 22:59

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 22:57

You must be done now. Well done you.

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